My girlfriend and I have been dating for four months. She is my first serious girlfriend. We always talk to each other, go on dates two nights a week, and we are both still virgins. I really care about her. If she broke up with me, I'd be devestated. Lately, she has been showing less interest in me, and she even admits it. There was I point that I had no doubt in my mind she absolutely loved me, but now, that same love doesn't exist. I don't know what to do. Part of the reason is my family situation. She and my sister are the same age, and my sister doesn't like the fact that I have a girlfriend, so she bad mouths her calling her names and what not. Unfortunately, my parents side with my sister. I really don't know what to do. I am very sensitive emotionally, and if I lose her, I know I'll go into a serious depression. I have no other friends I can talk to about my problems. There is still time to mend my relationship with her. If you have any ideas, I am desperate to hear them
2007-02-03 14:01:59 · 12 answers · asked by David H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i feel your pain man...listen..you must do everything on your part to keep the relationship...remind your gf all the good times and all the good things you have told each other in the past and for her not to forget those things...look into her eyes and talk to her face to face that you seriously love her and it hurts you how all of a suuden you aren't receiving the same amount of love that you give to her...tell her your pain and if she cares and truly loves you back she will change for the better...but listen..if she continues to keep going this way you have to back off and tell yourself that she isn't everything for you...that there is someone out there that will love you for you...and not have these sudden mood swings...you need to talk to her...best of luck bro and may you find success in this relationship..best wishes be with you
2007-02-03 14:09:13 · answer #1 · answered by Tidus 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There may be many reasons why she is acting this way, but without beating around the bush, I think that she may have found out that your sister and parents are talking bad about her. Your sister may have even said something to her,or had one of her friends do her dirty work. Don't put all you have in this relationship, you are young and there are plenty other girls out there. We have all had the wonderful opportinuity to have someone break up with us, it is no big deal, you are supose to be out having a good time while you can...believe me once you are out of college, the fun is over and time to work and earn yourslef a living...Have good clean respectful fun while you can. And if your family is going to have a problem with you having a GF...then don't tell them...maybe find one that goes to a different school. But do not go into a depression over some GF...there are too many out there. And never talk about your old GF to another girl, especially in detail....girls do not want to hear that.
2007-02-03 14:19:08 · answer #2 · answered by mrs_endless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would have a family meeting and ask your sister what she has against you. Then ask your parents why are they taking your sister side. If the sister keeps bad mouthing your girl then you could just be rude around her friends when they come over.
2007-02-03 14:09:03 · answer #3 · answered by alexia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your sister doesnt like u haveing a girlfriend?? what kinda crap is that? u need to tell your sister and your family to f*ck off, and to leave u the hell alone!! as for you and your girlfriend, id dump her *** before she dumps you, no need in getting depressed over some lousy chick. Anyway theres plenty of em around these days
2007-02-03 14:13:34 · answer #4 · answered by Ratt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must flatter her take her on more than 2 dates a week because it is just like a routine. you have to like bend the rules[well the routine rules] u can both still be virgins but get her gifts that she will love and absolutly love. kiss her when she is mad and make her happy flatter her so much she has no reason to break up with you
2007-02-03 14:10:19 · answer #5 · answered by loves brown eyes♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to her. Tell her that you dont care what you parents think orwhat your sister thinks. You have to stick up for your girl. Ask whats wrong. Maybe she hoping that you will take her virginity away and you havent done anything about that. You should deff talk to her about you and her and tell her how you feel.
2007-02-03 14:09:04 · answer #6 · answered by Chris F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, ask her what is up? and then she might tell you and as your family tell them that you really like the girl and too just leave you alone and your girlfriend maybe all you need to do is talk to her
2007-02-03 14:07:52 · answer #7 · answered by Kayleen G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there. We've been together with my bf for 11 years and a few months back he was forgeting to say those words... My initial reaction is to love him more... to fill the emptiness but it doesn't work. Now, I've decided to step back give him space to think and realize if he really wanted to say those for me or for someone else... Let her think, and let us wait.
2007-02-03 14:10:06 · answer #8 · answered by PUCAI 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would be best to let her go. It will hurt. Love does sometimes. But, you can't make her love you if she doesn't feel it. You'll meet someone who does have genuine feelings for you. Keep looking.
2007-02-03 14:08:00 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs. L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to talk to her and have a serious conversation. you need to see if she is still in the relationship as much as you are. if she really loves you then you have nothing to worry about.
2007-02-03 14:08:50 · answer #10 · answered by Jay B. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋