need advice..wit bf?

Question

me and my bf have been dating for almost a year before we started dating we were best friends for almost a year. I dont regret being in a relationship with him cuz he is a great guy in so many ways and we are slowly but surely building our lives together but sometimes we argue and we yell and fight to the point where our neighbors call the cops. also i feel bad but i get so angry that sometimes i hit him or scratch him up..i dont need advice aout us breaking up...so please dont post that..i need advice on things we can do to avoid the yelling and screaming and ways to control anger please.

Answer 1

well then just talk 2 him and find out all ur diffrences and well go from ther hope it helps

Answer 2

Hi there!!
Well if it is advice you seek then I will do my best.

Try going for a walk when things get heated...I would always grab a tea from a coffee shop close bye.That way when you return hopefully you both will be ready to talk to each other calmly.It also gives you time to collect your thoughts.Try writing a letter or note.I know you probally think it is dumb but that way both of you get what you want out on paper to read then yelling.My husband always liked that.That way both of you can be heard and get back on track of conversation afterwards without getting side tracked .(It happens when you fight eh??)That way the problems get heard and hopefully solved or close to it.Try it my husband loves it.

Then there is always anger management classes for both of you too.Hey,it might help!!

Other then that I hope you can find this useful.Good luck!!

Answer 3

Straight Up:
If you do not want to break up, then you are going to have to get counseling. A relationship with anger and violence has no future. You have to find the reason for the anger before you can extinguish it.
Best of Luck!

Answer 4

i think you may consider some counseling...the things that cause us to act out on another person in anger have more to do with us internally than just what's going on in the moment.... stop attacking...it's very important that you try a couple of things immediately... leave the house... calm down....ask yourself why are you upset...when you can answer that then call and try to work things out on the phone...have a15 min rule where if one of you leaves then the one leaving will call or return in 15 min... consider reading the word of God and learning how to develop patience and love... good luck 2 you both

Answer 5

Please, we are all adults and if you are an adult there is no need for kicking and screaming. If you cannot have a calm conversations then you need to go for anger couseling, both of you. It is a chosen behaviour, you can control your anger if you choose to. This is not placing blame this is about maturity. Take care Heather

Answer 6

Yah breaking up part is bad good desicion, its love people fight you need to understand that he loves you and you love him you are the only people that can make things work and fighting isnt going to solve anything, just talk to him about "us" tell him that you both need to realize what you are doing

Answer 7

well i can help with this one i have anger probs i was in a mental hospital for them but you should try to talk and listen with out yelling and try not to hit or hurt them try to hit like like a pillow or even take like 5 till you both cool down and go and dance or listen to music that helps me i hope that helps you

Answer 8

try taking it out and then if that doesn't work try talking to a shurink or maybe someone who is going through the same things