My old best friend died in a car accident 1-27-07 and first when i heard i dident think much about it but now i cry everyday yesterday i went to his wake and cried and now i just feel like i wanna die and meet him plz help :(
2007-02-03 13:33:31 · 11 answers · asked by Sam.J. 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
He's dead. He's busy decomposing. Get over it.
2007-02-05 04:27:32 · answer #1 · answered by I AM ME 2 · 0⤊ 11⤋
It's very normal to feel this way when you lose someone close,the thing to do is talk about it and take one day at a time,expect the mourning period to last for a while.I sugest you find a support group or start one yourself because it helps when others can relate to what you're going through.
2007-02-03 13:53:04 · answer #2 · answered by Georgewasmyfavorite 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry to hear about your friend.
It's common for people to feel numb when they first hear about someone dying (it's called denial), then get upset later when it sinks in. It's even normal to think about dying and being with the person who has died.
Just remember that grief is real and takes a while to get through.
If you start seriously considering harming yourself, get to an ER ASAP.
2007-02-03 13:36:36 · answer #3 · answered by ambr123 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I´m so sorry for your loss.
It´s normal for news like that to not "sink in" until later on. As terrible as it is to lose someone you love, you need to focus on cherishing the great moments you shared with them, and going on with your life. Because you have it and the world will be a better place if you spend it productively.
2007-02-03 14:23:56 · answer #4 · answered by No se 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This happened to me too. I could not believe it and was in complete denial. I was told abruptly and did not have time to really deal with it at first. I made it to a birthday party that evening at McDonalds for this little girl of one of my friend's family. I thought I could get through it, but I just lost it right there in front of everyone. I felt so embarrassed and in so much pain. I could not sleep and I remember getting up and holding the football jersey he had given me when he was younger. I looked at his picture and felt guilty for not contacting him much before he died--because I was afraid his girlfriend would get mad. I remembered the last time we spoke and what he had told me. I then fournd myself starring out the door and looking for him to come to me somehow. I did not cry at the visitation, but I did at the funeral. It took me four years to get over it without pondering on it, and then his really close friend--girl got killed when her and her friend's truck went into a creek and they drowned. She was one of my friends too. Now they are buried side by side. I use to visit his grave often, but I haven't lately. It really gave me peace of mind. I still cry for him sometimes. It does get easier, but it will take a long... long time, atleast for some people. I remember the day he died--I was going out with my girlfriend and I saw the road was blocked off and we took a different route--I did not know it was him in the accident. Then when we got to a store, I thought I saw him. Then my friend and I talked about him and we thought of stopping by to see him at his dad's house, but I was running late for the little party. I remember this sad feeling coming over me and when I got home my dad loudly and without compassion told me he was dead. It hit me hard and like I said,.. I was in disbelief, then I checked my answering machine and I knew by my friend's voice that it was true. So You may feel this void for a long time, but remember the good times you both had and remember to enjoy the people you care about the most because we never know when they or ourselves will never get the chance to see eachother again. So say what you need to say and be kind to your loved ones. Pray a lot. May God be with you during your time of need.
2007-02-04 10:38:24 · answer #5 · answered by just julie 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry about your friend. If you need help getting thru this time call you minister ar talk to a friend. I will pray for you and your friend too.God Bless
2007-02-03 13:40:22 · answer #6 · answered by Shortydeb 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
that sucks i've had friends die not to long ago too infact one of my friends is getting cancer again the best thing to do is try to forget it but never forget your friend just try to enjoy life while you still have it
2007-02-03 14:55:17 · answer #7 · answered by ty g 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You just have to accept that your friend is gone. You have to believe in god and that you WILL see your friend at the end of your life. Just BELIEVE and you will be in better spirits!!!!
2007-02-03 13:46:33 · answer #8 · answered by truebeing3030 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Strange, he died the day of my birthday
2007-02-03 15:12:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Im very sorry for your lose. But believe me it will get easier. Please do not do anything to hurt yourself. You will get through it and it will get easier.
2007-02-03 13:38:08 · answer #10 · answered by Lizzie Ann 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its called delayed response. best thing to do is go on with your life. he would have if it had been you.
2007-02-07 12:46:34 · answer #11 · answered by duc602 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋