My girlfriend and me had an altercation (I was messing with someone else), but after I realized how much I love her I am willing to prove to her that I am not a bad boy. I don't go to the clubs or bars (unless me friend is deejaying that night). After work, I go home and give her a call. Plus, when I invite her over I sometimes make dinner or take her out. But I feel that some of her feelings has changed for me. So how can I prove that I am not the same a**hole she once knew? Ladies, you comments are appreciated
2007-02-03 13:26:07 · 10 answers · asked by Kingston 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You messed up, so the only way to get those old feelings back with her is to reestablish trust. If I were you, I would not act like I was doing something behind her back or act secretive around her. I would let her know who I was talking on the phone with and let her know more about my life, such as what was going on when she was not around, whether she asked or not. I would be certain, if I were you, never to make this mistake again. If your friend is deejaying I would recommend you take this girl with you.
2007-02-03 13:33:59 · answer #1 · answered by disco lemonade 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You pretty much answered your own question!
You stated that 'you are not the A**hole she once knew'.
Well that in itself should tell you 'why' her feelings toward you have changed..
Put yourself in her shoes and ask yourself how
would 'you' have reacted if it were her that
had cheated on you!!
Of course her feelings have changed toward you, she's human, and has now become 'leary'
of you, and whether she can trust you again or not.
Things like this take a 'long time' to RE-gain
someones trust of you.
And sometimes it never happens, simply because the one who was decieved by cheating, has lost that trust for good..
So the only advice I can give you is, 'one step
at a time', and if you 'really' cared about this girl to start with you would 'never' have cheated on her. Only an UN-commited partner would do such a thing, and it's likely she sees things this way also, as do millions of others who have been cheated on..
How does she know for sure you'd 'never' do it again? She doesn't!!
It's like saying 'I promise' to do this or that, but often times the promise gets broken..
You would have to spend the rest of your life
'proving' your love to her, if she's unable to trust you again.. Sit down, talk this out, and go from there..
2007-02-03 13:42:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will take time. You have to prove it in many ways. Be open and honest with her. Always. She is probably thinking of the saying. "Once a cheater always a cheater". For the most part that is true. At times it isnt. Just keep on what you are doing. Treat her good and put her first with things.
Good luck!
2007-02-03 13:33:18 · answer #3 · answered by moo shell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your kidding right, no seriously your joking.
well there sweetheart lol, once the damage is done its done.
like the old saying goes,
you once where a cucumber, then turned into a pickle, once your a pickle, you cant be a cucumber again lol.
ohhh its better to have lost then loved isint it romeo.
its gonna take along time before she even beleives and notices that there is a change.
my suggestion is this.
dont be a retard anymore.
now put yourself in her shoes, like come on, would you want to take you back, after one night of hot heated cheat late night series.
like come on dude seriously.
please do take this to affence but what where you expecting with a question like yours. oh hun im so sorry you cheated its ok.......................... not gonna happen............tard
good luck lol
2007-02-03 14:15:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You blew it DOUCHEBAG!!! You will NEVER have what you once did and she will never completely trust you. Odds are she will cheat on you at some point to even the score and you two are doomed to a failed relationship. Sady most selfish bastards like yourself realize this scenario after you go and screw a hoochie mamma. Chalk it up to a lesson learned and treat your next lady better!
2007-02-03 13:32:28 · answer #5 · answered by vonhugenstein21 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ohh man i have the pefect thing it is going to be very imperssing but... if you want her that much then do it!!! ok well find out were she is going to be out in public and well..... strip down and wear a sandwich bord thats says i love you and i really have changed!! well yeah..... lol good luck!!!
2007-02-03 13:33:50 · answer #6 · answered by jess98gum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep doing what you are doing. She just needs to regain her trust in you.
2007-02-03 13:29:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
show up with flowers and chocolate and a big stuffed bear and say I'm sorry, I love you
2007-02-03 13:30:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're just gonna have to show her over time.
2007-02-03 13:29:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
JUST GIVE HER SOME TIME TO REGAIN HER TRUST IN YOU. IN THE MEAN TIME BE YOURSELF
2007-02-03 13:34:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋