Let me give you some background. This guy has been one of my best friends for a year and a half and just a week ago we finally told eachother how we felt about eachother. All through the week he has been wonderful and sweet to me. He's not trying too move fast, nor does he move too slowly. To me he's my 'perfect guy'. But today we went to the movies with some of our friends and I could tell he was hinting to hold my hand... but I didn't notice until after he gave up. :( Then after the movie he walked right past me and went up to my other friends in front of me. Our shoulders brushed and it didn't feel like an accident, but then he hardly talked to me for the rest of the time we were hanging out, which was only a half hour, because then he left without telling me why. And when he left he never even gave me a goodbye hug. I don't know what's going on, and I don't want to annoy him, so I'm not sure if I should call him or not. At least, not yet. What is going through his head?
2007-02-03 13:25:51 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's a tough one. I suggest that you call him and say, "I was so glad that you came out to the movie, but then you left without saying goodbye... Are you mad at me?" So if he *is* annoyed he will have a chance to voice his frustration. And if he's not then you'll find out that you have nothing to be worried about. If he says something like "why would I be mad at you?" then you can say, "Maybe you were trying to get my attention and I didn't notice?"
2007-02-03 13:32:22 · answer #1 · answered by pamgissa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call him and just hold a general conversation. He probably thought that you knew what he was doing and got upset and felt that you were brushing him off. Let him know that you didnt realize what he was doing until after the fact. If you have feelings for him let him know and work it out from there. If you dont let him know but that you would like to continue being friends. If he is a true friend, he will accept that and be a friend or you both will have a good relationship.
2007-02-03 21:31:13 · answer #2 · answered by totally ignored 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you guys are as close as you say and he is one of your best friends I would call him and tell him that you didn't notice he was trying to hold your hand. It sounds like he likes you and was probably hurt thinking you were embarassed to show how you felt in front of your other friends. Give him a call and see how it goes. Chances are he's hoping you'll call. Good luck =)
2007-02-03 21:31:25 · answer #3 · answered by A W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah, he probably feels that you tried to play him in front of y'all friends -- i'm curious though, how do you hint at holding someones hand and they not notice -- it sound like you made him feel as if you were embarrassed to hold his hand or to let everyone know you were his lady -- definitely talk to him but that's not gonna be enough, do you know how hard it is for alot of women to get their man to hold hands in public, personally speaking, i rarely do and i've been around the block many-a-times, so just remember, the next time you guys are out with your friends you probably will have to do most of the initiating b/c you snubbed him the first time he tried it -- to answer your question, he's not annoyed, he's just giving you a taste of your own medicine ---- good luck
2007-02-03 21:43:40 · answer #4 · answered by Big Rob II 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he likes you a lot but just isnt so sure on how you feel. it seems to me that he wants to be more than just friends with you but he is not so sure you want the same. tell him that you want to be more than friends and ask him if that is what he wants to.
also, he was ignoring you the rest of the night because he felt akward that you know that he likes you and he doesnt want that to ruin your guy's relationship as being real close friends.
2007-02-03 21:31:47 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Sher♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u made him feel worthless. he wanted to hold your hand because he likes u. he felt like he got rejected. just leave him alone for a bit until he wants to meet up with u or talk to u. he just needs to clear his head. good luck
2007-02-03 21:34:03 · answer #6 · answered by Joho 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he made himself vulnerable by trying to make a public display of affection (holding your hand in front of friends) and when you didnt respond he felt rejected/embarassed....
men have very sensitive egos.
talk to him.
iron it out
ask him straight out if thats what is bothering him then explain...
2007-02-03 21:29:52 · answer #7 · answered by lovebugger 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
right now hes trying to give u a sign and wen u accidently missed it hes probably a wee bit depressed because there he is rolling along then bam your not picking him up and hes a lil afraid. ow wat u need to do is give him a sign or just walk up and ask him out again. this time be one the look out for signs!!!!!!!!
2007-02-03 21:31:56 · answer #8 · answered by guildguy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
call him
2007-02-03 21:32:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋