They have seperate beds but want to sleep together. I want them to have a good night's sleep without waking the other one up. They're 10 now and don't have any independence. My husband doesnt have a problem with his. What's the right thing to do?
2007-02-03 13:24:39 · 51 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
I have twins (boy and girl who are 7) and I allow them to sleep in the same room every now and again if they want to. I feel like they're bonding and the memories they'll have of the giggles and scary stories they sometimes tell are so much more important than the memories they'll have about the arguements they had with Mom about NOT sleeping in the same room (or in your case, bed)
It's give and take. It shouldn't be about if they get thier own way cause I'm sure that in all other aspects of thier lives, you have given them boundries and they know when to or not to cross the line.
I'm sure your husband is just thinking the same as everyone else. It's not a huge deal...it's only a huge deal if you let it be one.
Don't let this worry you too much.... If it were me, I'd let them sleep together every now and again. Just make it on the weekends where they can make it a night (or two) of "girly night sleep-overs" with fun with thier hair and nails, chatting about thier friends, maybe watching a movie with pocorn when they can sleep in, that way it's a comprimise between you AND your husband. (and he'll think he's getting his way!! LOL)
Good luck and stay sane!! LOL
2007-02-03 15:41:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
It's not weird, it's normal. I have 7 year old twins that sleep in the same room in twin beds, and sometimes they want to sleep together. The only reason I object is because I want them to get a good night's sleep. I suggest to them that they can do it on weekends. But I don't think they're going to be any more independent if you make them sleep separately. If my kids *really* wanted to sleep in the same bed every night, and if they slept well, I'd have no problem with it. They'll decide when it's time to separate. There are so few things they really have control over...
2007-02-03 16:35:47 · answer #2 · answered by Liza 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well once they get older they are gonna realize "wait, why do I want to go to sleep with my sister I'm too old to be two to a bed I can be independent!" So for now maybe you could get them a full size bed so they won't be squished together and then once they get out of that stage they will want to be separated so then get another bed and they will be separate. They are gonna realize that soon enough. If they just turned 10 then you might have to wait another year but if their birthdays coming up they will get out of it. If not then you may just have to force them to sleep separate and say that they are still gonna be in the same room. But if the room is small, get them each a twin size bed or a bunk bed (I'd really prefer each a twin size bed). Or ask them "why do you two want to sleep in a twin size bed?" they might just be scared. some children go through that stage especially twins! Well I hoped I helped! ♥
2007-02-03 13:39:39 · answer #3 · answered by :) 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't seem like a problem to me, they are twins after all, 2 halves of a whole and all that. If they're comfortable with it, then they're probably getting enough sleep. Maybe just try letting it go for now and see what happens. They may stop on their own, it will get pretty crowded in that twin bed as they grow bigger. Kids tend to do the opposite of what you want if you make a big deal out of it.
Good luck to you and your family!
2007-02-03 14:27:30 · answer #4 · answered by mom of 2 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think a twin bed for 2 growing girls is a bit weird. Talk about being crammed. I think your husband is being selfish or something. I can't think of his reasoning for deciding that it was ok. If the girls want to sleep together, fine. I would just get them a full size bed, at least. If they have no independance, let them start by choosing what they want, either 2 twins or 1 full. It might make them feel good to make their own choice. Good luck!
2007-02-03 13:29:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Yeah I really think you're being over the top. If he wants a single bed that's fine. If he's single, then he doesn't even need a double bed! I prefer double beds personally, but only cos it's more space and I can have other people share it!
2016-03-29 03:48:03 · answer #6 · answered by Mary 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What happened to the good old days when all five kids in one house shared a bed? Nobody saw it as wrong or perverse. It was just the way it was. And really, unless your worried that something funny is going on, quit stressing and enjoy your daughters. Fretting away the next 10 years will only leave you with regret about missing all those special things.
2007-02-03 16:45:22 · answer #7 · answered by binglejells2003 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My twin and I used to sleep in a twin bed until the age of around 10 or 11. If you think it is time for separate beds then yes go for it. Make it a special occasion by having the twins pick out their own duvet covers or blankets etc.. and reassure them that they will be in the same room.
2007-02-03 13:33:47 · answer #8 · answered by Sorcha 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This isn't unusual for twins. I'd suggest getting a full size bed so they have more room and can sleep better.
They'll grow out of it but maybe sleeping together allows them to sleep better.
2007-02-03 17:49:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they aren't getting adequate sleep they should be in seperate beds. Or get them a full bed. They'll have more room that way. Ask they're doctor. It may be comforting for them to share a bed, they shared a womb at the beginning.
2007-02-03 13:32:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋