Should I... for her? Is it a good idea?

Question

I really like one of my friends. I am not sure if she knows it, though.

In my mind I have been planning to surprise her on Valentines Day.
I wanted to leave some gifts for her in each of her classes, and
leave clues for her on each of them. On the last one, I want to tell
her that I like her, I am not sure how she will react to this, and I am not sure if this is a good idea.

We have known each other around 2 years. I really like her and I am afraid that she wont feel the same way about me.

If anyone could please give me other ideas & tell me if it a good idea or if I should think of something else? Am I coming on to strong?

Answer 1

That is sweet. Don't ever loose that quality. Well, it depends on a couple of things. First, do you feel that she is into you? If you feel that she would be totally into you, that sounds really sweet and I think she would be honored that you would go to that extent. I don't really know how close the two of you are, but I always think of the worse case scenario. What if she isnt into you? Would she make fun of you and show it to her friends in her last class? If not, then go for it. Another thing you may want to do is possibly have flowers sent to the school...every girl loves roses..or possibly slip a note into her locker.

These are some other suggestions that may keep it on the D/L, but I think the idea you have is great. Just be careful not to get your heart broken. Sometimes when you go all out like that, it makes you feel even worse if she were to say no. I feel that you should listen to your heart. If you feel that you are doing the right thing, go for it. If she says no, don't let it get you down. There will always be someone out there that will appreciate your sweetness. There aren't many guys as sweet as you and any girl would be lucky to have that.

Answer 2

I think it sounds like a good idea considering you have known her for around 2 years. I do not think you are coming on too strong. I would say you were if you had not known her so long. I think she will catch on that it is you and you will end up being surprised in how much she does like you. If a guy did this for me in high school I would have been impressed and very likely to go out with him because he was so sweet.

Answer 3

I think that is a wonderful idea. I think that you need to play it nice & easy though. Don't try to leave a clue that is to overwhelming, or you may scare her away. Leave a message or clue such as, We know each other, but wasn't sure if you knew how well I liked you. Don't make it sound too cheasy with poems & such, that makes it look like you are coming on too strong, & it makes you seem a bit too eager. The next clue could be, I think that we could be more than friends if it ok with you, or something like that. Good luck, & don't lose sight of your goal. Treat her right, & I hope she knows just how special she is.

Answer 4

Two years?! Does she know that you exist? Well, I think you are coming on a little strong although your gestures are really nice, they might sweep her off her feet and out the door. I suggest that you have a florist deliver her a dozen red roses in any of her classes with a bag of Hershey kisses. The card should read that it's with love from you and happy v day. No one else would do this or think of it.

Answer 5

Go for it man. What is the worst that could happen. I have had very strong feelings for a friend of mine and didn't act on it in time. I am not sure it would have made any difference before but then it got to be too late. Trust me don't waste any time.

Answer 6

okay, if it turned out she didn't like you at all, then she may think you're kinda like a stalker or something, you know?

I say have flowers delivered to her. At school, if you want to. Otherwise, at her house. Since you said something about her classes, I'm thinking high school......so, most high schools have flower sales as fundraisers for Valentine's Day. You can buy a whole bunch of 'em and the students deliver them individually.

Otherwise, I think what you have planned is really sweet. I just think that, if it turns out she doesn't like you in that way, she may be really weirded out by it all.

Answer 7

Hi brother,
If u still haven't told her of ur love 4 her, then, i suggest tht u meet her personally on feb 14 n jus tell her that u like her, givin her jus 1 sweet or cute li'l gift, instead of givin her a lot of gifts, leavin a clue on each 1 of it. This is jus my suggestion, u do whatever u feel is right.

Answer 8

It sounds like such a sweet idea, but I think she may feel pressured into saying yes or no, because to me that's coming on a bit strong. I'm not saying don't tell her, by all means!! But doing something like that doesn't seem like a good idea right now. Tell her you'd like to take her out on valentines day to confess your feelings, but make sure you don't come on to strong, and let her know how you feel, without having her be pressured to say yes or no on the spot

Answer 9

That is a wonderful idea. I wish my boyfriend would have come on to me like that. He asked me out over the phone but I was so surprise that I didn't care how he did it. Keep up the good work. You are good with the ladies aren't you? I think you are!!

Answer 10

It's a really sweet, imaginative, and creative way. This could be very flattering. If she likes you, it'll probably assure you of success. I say go for it but be prepared for the other side of the coin: that she may not reciprocate your feelings. It's the only way to find out. If she hasn't noticed you before, this will certainly turn her head in your direction. Good luck!!!