I have been punched, scratched, bitten, screamed and cursed at by my 12-yr-old step-daughter. My new husband (of 6 months) has the child staying with a family friend until June. I left my first marriage because I was abused for 7 years. Now I find myself in basically the same predicament. It didn't get better until I left the first time. So, if my new husband is going to allow this person to return to our home, even though we both know the abuse will continue and most likely escalate, then is my only other option to leave him (I have 5 children of my own to protect)?
Also, we tried to get her put into a respite foster home, she is in serious therapy through partial at school and home base. The cops don't care, they said get a no-hit PFA on her. I don't see how that will work when all it does is punish her afterward (she doesn't learn from punishments!!), it doesn't physically restrain her from touching me. So, any other options? Or should I cut my losses?
2007-02-03
13:05:51
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My husband restrains her when she does these things. He is the one who sent her out of our home the last time. He says he won't allow it and it won't happen again, but after living in a previous marriage of the same nature, I know better. She will hit harder next time. And I have been having a recurring nightmare since August, where she stabs me while I'm sleeping. My husband isn't exactly willing to find her another permanent living arrangement, but he is at least aware of the situation. He has convinced himself that he is "abandoning" her. I am trying to convince him that he is doing what is right for her, him, and the rest of us.
2007-02-03
13:37:09 ·
update #1
Her mother is re-married to some fool, and has a problem with illegal drugs (crack and heroin). My step-daughter said the mother has sent her to trick for the mom's goods. Sadly, my step-daughter is UBER manipulative, and I don't necessarily believe everything she says. We did, however, report to Children and Youth and the police, who have done nothing except exxonerate the mother. There is also speculation that this child isn't biologically my husband's (according to many people!). The law doesn't care even if that's true, because he has been raising her, and has had custody for 3 years.
2007-02-03
13:41:08 ·
update #2