I've had enough with my family's ways; we need to change!?

Question

my children are 2, 3, and 4!!! I am having trouble keeping the house under control and i think a "family rule" list might help. I want to make sure it has rules for the children and the parents so the kids feel it is fair. Does anyone know of a good site to print a family rule list from or have a list i can use. There is yelling, screaming, hitting, ect. going on and there needs to be changes for EVERYONE! A list with built in consiquences would be helpful ( for parents and kids). thank you

Answer 1

As a parent, I find that consistency is a big part of parenting. You need to make sure that the kids know what to expect and are used to some sort of schedule.
As for the family rules...since your children are still toddlers, I would start off with some easy rules like: putting away toys, no hitting, no yelling, etc. Remember that children will model their parents' behavior, so you need to be conscious of your own behavior.
Here are some websites to get some ideas for some reward charts. If I were you I would create personalized ones for each child and allow them to put the stickers next to the rules they followed each day. And then think of some rewards they earn at the end of the week for "X" amount of stickers earned.

http://www.childavenue.com/pages/family_corner_pages/printables.html
http://www.childguidancecenter.org/Information/Articles/behavior.htm
http://www.myrewardboard.com

Answer 2

No matter what the age of the children, parents set the tone of any household. If your children are unruly maybe you and your wife need to change your approach to the way all of you interact.

I think you and your wife need parenting mentors. Look around you for a parents that seem to cope better than you. Ask them for advice. They will probably be more sympathetic to you situation than family members. If that's not for you, find a parenting group. As they say, "No man (or woman) is an island.

Be strong. Good luck!

Answer 3

Heres a decent book to read.

http://rosemond.com/index.php?action=website-view-item&WebSiteID=389&ItemID=3256

Here's the intro:

Parents aren't their children's friends; they are their leaders. Parents are at the center of a family-not kids. Your marriage must come before your children.Each chapter includes easy-to-relate-to questions from parents, which Rosemond answers with both common sense and a sense of humor. For families feeling overwhelmed by competing advice about parenting, this book will ground them with logical, proven approaches to the most significant challenges parents face today. From issues such as self-esteem and discipline to television and chores, this straightforward guidance will facilitate a return to parent-centered families where children are raised into responsible adults.

Answer 4

I have a 3 & 5 year old & found this book "123 Magic" by T. Phelan. It uses a counting system sort of like "3 strikes". Now when I say "1", they know I mean it, no arguments needed!

Answer 5

I strongly disagree with yelling,screaming and hitting, change your way kids will follow your way,
my brothers ,sister, and me have been raised in such a house and result is no fun , all of us are depress and none of us got any where in life

Answer 6

Your kids are too young for a list. They can't even read!

Answer 7

What you need is consistancy for all. Try Nanny911.com or get their book.

Answer 8

try looking up something on one of those nanny shows, like super nanny.

Answer 9

jerryspringertv.com

They want to hear your story and try to help.