I'm 24yrs & his 30yrs.i ve never been interested in white guys,but i seem to be a magnet for them,so i gave into this guy i'm seeing now.He has turned out to be great.I think i'm falling for him.I don't want to admit,my family will not accept him.I'm fighting my feelings.He is educated,has a good job& he is really good looking & i'm in college.He always has time for me.I don't understand why i can't completely let him in my life.We ve been seeing eachother for 9 months now.He makes the best love to me& makes me feel beautiful.Last week he introduced me to his Boss as his G/friend & later that day i flipped out.He apologised,he thought we were in a relationship.I told him,we re just having sex.i don't mean it.i'm in love with him.i think about him a lot.He has said"i love you" a number of times but i don't respond.i don't want to lose him but i keep hurting him.i'm confused & i think my family and friends have something to do with it. They don't like him just because he is white.help
2007-02-03 11:52:58 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ay girl, don't chu worry about it. Listen, if u like this guy, then go for it. From ya describition it looks like dis guys is chill, honest, n really into you. Plus you said that he has alot of time for you! Girl, you guys are both in love with each other. Cuz listen, it's not the color of your skin, but the size of your heart, n it looks like you two should be together. God bless you both.
2007-02-03 12:05:15 · answer #1 · answered by Brian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sister, it sounds as if you are really fighting your feelings for this guy simply because you are afraid of what others think. Years ago I use to hate on the brothers who went strickly for the White chicks cause I thought it was a shot against Sisters. Now though I'm older and I've learned that thinking is soooo tired! When you get a little older, you'll realize that real love is hard to find and when you find it, you're a fool if you let it go. It takes bravery to stand for what you think is right despite what your friends and family may say. It sounds as if he's a good guy, if you're not courageus enough to stand for your man then, let him go. If you do decide to let him go, I hope you don't have to look back one day and regret that you loss the love of your life cause you were too cowardly to stand up for him... and for yourself.
2007-02-03 12:27:42 · answer #2 · answered by P. C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you always determine how you will treat someone by the color of their skin? I doubt that you would stand for it if someone tried to do the same to you.
It sounds like you've got yourself a good man. You can accept that, thank God for putting you two together, tell him you love him, and start working on getting your friends and family to see the good in him. Or, you need to call it off and start working on finding yourself a guy with the same qualities who happens to be the "right color".
It's not fair to the man in your life to keep him hanging on if you're never going to fully accept him.
2007-02-03 12:04:00 · answer #3 · answered by Gonzo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard for you because so many around you ''don't accept it''
to not like him because he is white is childish and wrong......you should let that be known to all the ''haters'' friends and family!!
this is why people hate others of color....90 percent is because of the color!!
love him or ''do what everyone else says''.....your old enough to make a ''right'' decision..aren't you?
you seem very nice and smart, sounds like you really like him and same with him...color should not matter...your parents are setting a bad example....tell them so.
2007-02-03 12:01:57 · answer #4 · answered by transvainia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When Aaron and Miriam, Moses brother and sister rebelled against Moses for marrying an Ethiopian woman, God struck Mariam with leprosy. Numbers 12 1-16
2007-02-03 12:09:37 · answer #5 · answered by flesh_of_daisy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you really do care for him...I mean you said it yourself in your first sentence...I think you are just afraid of how others around you will judge you...He obviously isnt seeing color but you...and accepts you as you...I say roll with it and let your feelings go and do what you feel is right not what you assume others think it should be...Good Luck! If you havent seen the movie Something New...you should watch it...
2007-02-03 12:00:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sis, you hit a jackpot and dont want the money? I could hear you whispering in your question, I'm as black as they come and I was raised in white people society and for everyone in my family, they could see me with a white girl or they wanted me to mary a white girl. they got along great with all the white girls that I dated better than black girls and every time your family try to push you one way, believe me they know the risk that they're running. in your case, you need to get them one person at the time and one of them would tell the rest and you have to defend the white boy with everything you got. tell my white bro you need to get to know him, his friend and his familly, he might be running through the same problem with his family and I'm sure hes defending you with his heart. CONGRAT!
2007-02-03 12:42:39 · answer #7 · answered by monreve_2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a real bummer sweetie it sucks that your family cant be happy that your happy and appreciate that you are in love with this man. especially since you say he is a good man to and for you perhaps you should make your feelings known to him if he is as good of a man as you say together you will be able to work through whatever stands before you.Love will conquer all! goodluck and God bless you both.p.s. i will pray that your family can learn to let go of these feelings of resentment that they harbor we all need to belive in "one race" human.
2007-02-03 12:01:09 · answer #8 · answered by chris w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh wow that is soo great that u guys r good together...he seems to really care..u shouldnt let race be an issue at all really..comon it might be hard yea....but only at first..if u really love him u have to let him know...noww....also when it comes to handling your family and friends try to make them understand...and u can even invite him over if they allow it..give them a chance to see who he is..and how much he cares for you...remember you have to make choices that will make you happy...not choices that will make other ppl happy..
goodluck
2007-02-03 12:01:11 · answer #9 · answered by pixie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love him for who he is as a person - not his skin colour. If you love him then be with him. It will be horribly hard and awkward with you family but it's your life. Trust me - they will eventually get over it and accept it and you will be with him and be incredibly satisfied.
2007-02-03 11:57:55 · answer #10 · answered by salsadancingtiffany 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋