my 11yr old daughter erica ispregant. shes been having sex wiha 16yrold .the boy that got her pregant ran -away wat should my daughter and i do
2007-02-03 11:43:57 · 37 answers · asked by lashonda w 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
i don't believe u because dis sounds like the song "runaway love"
the reason i think that is because, it's also about a 11 year old and u even use the name erica. that's the name that was used in "runaway love" also, in the song, the boy that got erica pregant is also 16.
now stop making stuff up!!!!!!!!
2007-02-03 15:30:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, are you sure that she is pregnant? She is young to even be having her menstrual period at all. Has she had a pregnancy test?
If the answer to this is yes then you should realize that a crime has been committed. She is too young to have given consent to have sexual intercourse. I am not sure if the 16 year old boy can be charged with statutory rape because he is also a minor but it should be reported.
After that, the best thing you can do is take her to a place like Planned Parenthood and talk to one of the counselors there. It is true that they are the largest provider of abortion services in the world but I have been told that they do offer other alternatives. If all they do is push abortion, take her somewhere else. She needs to have all the options available to her.
I am not sure that an 11 year old girl can safely carry or deliver a baby. I would be worried about the safety of the baby as well as that of your little girl. This is one of the only situations where I think that abortion might actually be justified. Still you have to realize that having an abortion will leave scars on her also. It is an ugly thing for her to have to carry with her the rest of her life. I would only consider it if the doctor tells you that she cannot safely continue the pregnancy. An abortion is a tragedy of its own and I would not decide on it lightly.
If you do decide to let her try to have the baby you will have to take her to a really good doctor and be prepared to do everything that the doctor tells you to do. This would definitely be a high risk pregnancy and she would need a lot of care.
The other thing you have to do is to ask yourself if you are ready to raise another child right now? Didn't the other question that you posted say that you are yourself pregnant right now? You would be putting a great deal of a burden on yourself if you were to try to raise your daughters baby also. You know that is what you would be doing as an 11 year old would have no concept of how to take care of a baby. Even if she did, it is VERY important that she stays in school. Her education is very important at this point, even more so now as she will want to use this as an excuse to not finish school. Without an education she will never be able to survive on her own and you will have to be the one to make it possible for her to go to school.
You have a great deal to think about and some very important decisions to make.
Above all remember that even if she is pregnant she is still a little girl and has the same emotional needs of any other child. She needs your love and your understanding right now. She must be scared to death. You are to blame in this situation also but this is not about who is to blame. The important thing is that you do the best that you can to help her now.
If I can be of any help to you please write to me at Lady_Trinity_9@yahoo.com I will do what I can to help. I know that there are programs that can be of some help to you depending on where you live.
Take care and I hope to hear from you.
Blessings
Lady Trinity~
2007-02-03 12:03:05 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Trinity 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
OMG!!!! ru serious?! an 11 yr old pregnate?! well first of all why would u let ur 11 yr old daughter spend time w/ a 16 yr old??? u need to call the police, track down that boy, and press charges.... hopefully he'll go to jail for a long time..... and i dont think she should get an abortion... maybe if she has the kid this wont happen again.... keep her in school.... decide about adoption or raising it urself.... and u need to have a long sex ed talk w/ ur daughter so this doesnt happen again......
good luck and God bless...
2007-02-04 17:16:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy. You are going to get a lot of judgmental answers and I really hope you ignore them. The best thing you can do right now is be her support system. She needs your help. Make sure she is getting prenatal care and taking care of herself.
I know this is very scary for you too. Please don't take your worries and frustrations out on your daughter. Lean on another adult and have a support person yourself.
Both of you should sit down and discuss what options are the best for all of you. Planned Parenthood is a good place to go. My best friend is a nurse at a planned parenthood clinic and i know if she was your daughters nurse, all of you would be in excellent care.
2007-02-03 17:34:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats from the song runaway love...
Little erica is eleven years old
Shes steady tryin to figure why the world is so cold
So she pops x to get rid of all the pain
Cause shes havin sex with a boy whos sixteen
Emotions run deep and she thinks shes in love
So theres no protection hes usin no glove
Never thinkin bout the consequences of her actions
Livin for today and not tomorrows satisfaction
The days go by and her belly gets big
The father bails out he aint ready for a kid
Knowin her mama will blow it all outta proportion
Plus she lives poor so no money for abortion
Erica is stuck up in the world on her own
Forced to think that hell is a place called home
Nothin else to do but get her clothes and pack
She say shes about to run away and never come back.
2007-02-03 11:55:11 · answer #5 · answered by Lovely123 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why did you let your 11 year old daughter spend time with a 16 year old?? And how do you know that he ran away? Perhaps your daughter is just telling you that.
Go to a planned parenthood center and they can help you with the details of your options.
2007-02-03 11:48:20 · answer #6 · answered by BetsyLauren 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-28 09:30:45 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An 11 year is incapable of legally consenting to sexual intercourse and depending on the state, the boy could be charged with statutory rape. Follow through with this, he could be a sexual predator.
Go to Planned Parenthood and make an informed decision with your daughter and whatever the decision, put the kid on birth control immediately. If it were my kid, she wouldn't have the baby, either an adoption or abortion, she's a baby herself and deserves to have a childhood, not raise a child. An abortion is a tough decision but you know what, I think she needs to make some tough decisions to understand the seriousness of her actions. Good luck.
2007-02-03 12:01:14 · answer #8 · answered by MK 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would never let an 11 year old have the opportunity to even be with a 16 year old in the first place. She should not have this child.
2007-02-03 23:48:53 · answer #9 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are telling the truth she is a little young to be having sex and to be pregant i no its hard to know what they are doing all the time but you should of none some thing was wrong if she been seeing a boy thats 16 i think you need to go and talk to you doctor and be perperd for the worse
2007-02-03 12:14:43 · answer #10 · answered by scotthomehello 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋