After 2 years my significant other has chosen to "just be friends", what is the proper reaction? Emotional break down, crying on just the thought of it? HELP!
2007-02-03 11:42:26 · 17 answers · asked by Rebeccamarie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
crying, whining, screaming or whatever kind of reaction your thinking about having is NOT going to change anything. It's best you just be mature about it by respecting his wishes & accepting his decision. It's actually very rare that people end up being "just friends" after breaking up. The friendship usually does not last. You should be worrying about yourself, break ups are hard to deal with & accept at first, it's going to be hard but over reacting is not the answer to your problem. You need to start focusing on yourself, since he can't give you any of your wants & needs, then it's best you start finding it for yourself. Now that you know he's not the guy for the job, it's time you create your own path in finding yourself & happiness. We don't want to be sticking to a guy who only cares enough to "just be friends".
GOOD LUCK
2007-02-03 11:49:27 · answer #1 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, confused is a very familiar feeling among many of us ladies who've been booted and given the friends speech. Take a good look at the end of your relationship. Was it good? Was it rocky? Were you two having a lot of miscommunication problems?
If your relationship was solid and you two worked everything out all the time then I'd say your ex is just using the "Let's just be friends" line as a way out. If this is the case, if I were you I'd be insulted. After two years together you deserve more of an explanation than "I just want to be friends" You deserve some questions answered.
If your relationship was rocky, and you had a lot of communication problems then that just might be it. Sometimes guys bail because they can't take it anymore. They can't handle the drama, and the talking, and what it takes to make things work. Lift yourself up and move on. You'll be back in no time :)
2007-02-03 11:50:07 · answer #2 · answered by ksmaluk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, If you really loved your significant other then most people would have a emotional break down or crying on just the thought of it. This may help get your feelings out rather than bottling them up inside of you but you also need to move on and find someone else because you have to think they're not coming back.
2007-02-03 11:48:02 · answer #3 · answered by drunken_monkey1988 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's the polite way of saying I'm just not into you anymore. You won't be able to be friends for a while until the feeling die out abit. Get on with your life. I know it hurts, so take some time to cry and get angry then start healing. It's better to find this out after 2yrs than 20.
There is no "proper" reaction. It's all individual. One day you will look back and see the positive in what happened.
2007-02-03 11:50:36 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for god's sakes don't grovel and beg. That is a real turnoff. Except what he says. I know it will be hard. Tell him that you are sad about it. But that if that is what he wants, you accept it. Also be clear about whether or not you can be friends. In other words, if you search your hearts and could not be friends with him ... maybe because it would be too painful ... tell him that you can't and that you would rather break it off cleanly.
Personally, I think it would hurt, but it would be the best way. And then move on. Be sure you don't wallow in self-pitty, that you get back into circulation, go out, dress nicely, go on dates, etc. Let everyone know you are broken up and you are "available." Remember that the best revenge on your bf is a life enjoyed on your part.
2007-02-03 11:49:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it. Try to keep calm but let him know how you feel.
It sounds as if the 'magic' has gone from the relationship so while you can still stay friends if you want to it frees you up to start looking around again.
Who know that could be just the trigger to make him change his mind - a bit of jealousy can do wonders. On the other hand you may find someone better!
2007-02-03 11:51:26 · answer #6 · answered by Maryrose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Rebecca dont break down and cry cause thats what he wants you to do....just act like the world will go on with out him....shoot go on with out him....2 years together something must have been good...and if he decides he wants to be just friends....hes an idiot........
you cant go 2 years together....probably devoted to each other and all of a sudden become just friends...its impossible..........get him off your mind and think positively
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2007-02-03 11:52:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't think of how you "should" react, react however you feel... a reaction isn't something you plan out, it just happens... there's no right way of how to handle it... do whatever you feel like, cry, get mad, whatever... everyone would take it differently anyway...
2007-02-03 11:47:35 · answer #8 · answered by F.J. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is only one thing to do about this and keep centered. Accept it. Let him be the one to stay in touch if he wants to be friends. This is just a 'nice' way of saying he wants to be free of this relationship. If you want to cry, do it alone. So many of us do everything but accept a situation. Please do and save yourself a lot of grief.
2007-02-03 11:47:22 · answer #9 · answered by beez 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is too hard to become "just friends" like that. He obviously wants out, so tell him you can't be friends right now. Maybe when the hurt is over then you can be friends. You can't control this - so let it go.
2007-02-03 11:47:52 · answer #10 · answered by Kitt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋