what am i missing.....?

Question

i always get upset and i never no what about my mum has a new boyfriend and they have a baby together now and i feel like i am being pushed away from my mum and i hate my stepdad :@ also i just want to be in love with someone i want someone to say its ok everything is going to be fine even though i have done that one wrong thing am i in love or do i just want comfort also when i try to explain to my mum about this she tells me im being stupid and we end up arguing some times i get soo upset i cry myself to sleep my friend are always telling me not to worry and tryin to cheer me up and they always tell me its ok everything will end up ok but sometimes i get into my head they hate me to :( although they dont help me please what shall i do

Answer 1

When you say your Mom has a new boyfriend, I am guessing that she and your Dad where together as some point. I believe you are mad because your life was ripped away. When parents split up it always damages the children the most. You had no control over what was going on and no one asked your opinion. Now your Mom is with someone else and still no one is asking you what you think and what want. It feels as if is your Mom is getting a new life that doesn't include you, and she is forcing it on you. Your emotions are all over the place, most adults I know couldn't even deal with all the emotions you are dealing with right now. In life you most give away what you want the most. If you want love you must give it away. But really the person you want to fill love from is your Mom. Giving love to a boy is not going to give you the results your looking for. Try to look for the good things about your life. Tell you Mom you love her, and try to do things that show that. And your stepdad, try to respect him just because your Mom loves him. Really you have a decision to make you can continue to be angry and make it difficult for everyone to be around you including your friends. Or you can accept that sometime life sucks. Then make the best out of what you do have. I hope that helps. And you can always go to God in prayer.

Answer 2

We are all victims of victims, how can your mom love you if she was never loved herself. When you try to explain and she tells you, "you are being stupid" I think what she really is saying is that she doesn't know how to help you. It seem as though you are seeking comfort which often gets confused with love, but this kind of love often ends in a dependency relationship, and that is not healthy. You are really hurting right now, and you have made a good choice in wanting to talk about it. You've taken the first step in caring for yourself.
For now until you can learn more about the situation, know that you are not a bad person.

When your day is long and the night,
The night is yours alone,
When you're sure you've had enough
With this life,
Well hang on

Don't let yourself go,
'Couse everybody cries
And everybody hurts sometimes

Sometimes everything is wrong
Now it's time to sing along
When your days is night alone,
If you feel like letting go,
When you think you've had too much
Of this life,
Well hang on

Everybody hurts
Take comfort in your friends
Everybody hurts
Don't throw your hand
Oh, no
Don't throw your hand
If you feel like you're alone,
No, no, no, you are not alone

If you're on your own in this life,
The days and nights are long,
When you think you've had too much
Of this life to hang on

Well, everybody hurts,
Sometimes everybody cries
And everybody hurts sometimes
And everybody hurts sometimes
So, hold on, hold on, hold on...
(Everybody hurts... You are not alone)
REM

Cherishing the incredible person that you are; love yourself!

Answer 3

You just need a friendly shoulder to cry on and share problems with.

You seem to be going through a rough time, but don't worry too much, we all feel depressed and ignored at some point of our lives.
Try talking to your school counselor or with a good friend, I promise you will feel a lot better after you shared your problems with someone... your school counselor is there for this sort of things too... maybe he can give you good advice.

Just remember that everybody feels sad at some point of their lives, specially in their teens.
It's natural and you don't need to take any medication for that.
Try sharing your problems with someone, and if this situation continues for a long time, then yes, maybe you should consider some professional counseling.

Good luck. Remember that time heals everything. =)

Answer 4

God and pills are just pat answers that probably won't make you feel much better. Try focusing on yourself: your own aspirations, the things that make you happy, and make sure you are doing some of those things. Maybe you enjoy the arts, dancing, writing down your thoughts, cooking, sports... just pick one thing that everytime you are upset you can fall back on and put some energy into.
Then once you are feeling a little better about your own state of mind, if there are still things about your mother that are upsetting you, try talking to her about them calmly and earnestly. You'll be able to express yourself more clearly if you aren't really upset at the beginning, and she will respect you more. Good luck!

Answer 5

Give all your problems to God. He is always and will always be there for you, no matter what you are passing. He will never ignore you. Here is my e-mail if you would like to do this or would just like to talk to someone about everything: [e-mail]
He has always been there and really cares about you:)

Answer 6

have we ever met before, i'm going through the same exact thing, i had to check to make sur ei didn't post this question, and i'm only fifteen but omg that is so friggin ironic, but girl i have no idea what you should do because i don't even now what to do in my own situation, i ch

Answer 7

i been in that situation when i was 13 i even try to commit suicide but now i am 23 and i think i was over reacting i was jealous. relax and pray. that helps a lot

Answer 8

You sound depressed. Talk to your mom and see about getting some medication to level your moods out.

Answer 9

You Must do like you're mother say and you must looking of you're mother of another corn ..... How ... you can say she's hate me she's don't like me and you can say ... ooooh my god She's afried about me like that oh how much i love this woman I love my mother so much .... do you see the difreent .

Answer 10

Seek God! His love is unconditional!