I love a lady friend of mine because she has a beautiful face and is very compatible with me but has maybe 3 chins. I know there is more to love than the physical. She has a great personality. The problem is she is most likely well over 200 pounds. She knows we are just friends I hope. But she asked me to spend the night because her parents are out of town. I am not attracted to her because she is huge, but I am considering sleeping with her because she seems to want that and I think it may allow me to accept her more, lights off. We connect because I feel it easy to communicate with her. But its a moral dilemma as I know I just am curious what it would be like to sleep with her. But I think she wants this too. Is it wrong?
2007-02-03 11:14:09 · 20 answers · asked by disco 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Lingerie shopping. Classic move for a woman coming on to a man. Listen, don't be Shallow Hal. Don't use this girl. Yes, it is wrong. There is someone for everyone. If you aren't the one for her, don't give her any baggage that might slow her down from finding someone who likes her 200 pounds and all. Be a friend.
2007-02-03 11:18:14 · answer #1 · answered by amazingly intelligent 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is wrong. No matter how you tell her that you're not that attracted to her, or that you don't want a relationship...some part of her will think she can change your mind. Don't do it. It sounds as if the only thing holding you back is her weight. Maybe you could talk to her about it. Honestly and respectfully. Your attraction to a thinner female is normal.
2007-02-03 11:22:10 · answer #2 · answered by lohrewoks 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Please don't sleep with her unless you have true feelings for her, as her feelings will grow even more if you do. I am sure you don't want her to get hurt. Relationships aren't based on looks, but you do have to have some attraction in order for it to work. If you do sleep with her, then she will think that you really do like her and she may expect it to go to the next level. Be careful and don't hurt her!
2007-02-03 11:20:03 · answer #3 · answered by Kitt 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-02 06:05:14 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not a moral dilemma because you have no morals if you are going to sleep with someone and ultimately you will hurt her. Don't lead her on because when girls have sex with a guy, it is not just sex to them, it is an emotional thing. Also if you are not attracted to all of her then don't because that is just messed up to say only with the lights off. You are a real azzhole.
2007-02-03 11:19:31 · answer #5 · answered by l'il mama 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Keep it in your pants.Unless she pulls it out. Then you still have to tell her how you feel. You will lose her friendship if you do not. As far as a relationship would go. In the beginning their needs to be a physical attraction for a relationship to reach it's full potential. NO attraction = NO respect
2007-02-04 04:03:55 · answer #6 · answered by donniel608 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes it is wrong to sleep with someone because you are curious. If this is your friend and you truly love her, then her size should not matter. If it does, then please do not sleep with her. There is a big chance that she may want to take this deeper than "friendship" once you two become intimate and you don't want too. Please be careful not to break her heart.
2007-02-03 11:20:59 · answer #7 · answered by blkndn64 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Don't sleep with her. In her mind she is doing everything possible to start a relationship with you. If you sleep with her it will be the opening salvo is a epic psychological battle that will hurt her and drive you insane.
No good can come of it.
2007-02-03 11:18:13 · answer #8 · answered by LX V 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You are treading on dangerous ground. If you do this it will only serve to hurt her...... and will tank your friendship. If I were you I would not open the Pandoras Box that you are about to. Respect her and the friendship you have with her instead......you'll sleep alot better.
2007-02-03 12:18:20 · answer #9 · answered by Janet 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude, thats tough, I mean its seems like you can sleep with her easily, but be prepared for the consequences, such as she may want to have a real relationship with you. But if you can hit it and stay friends with no strings do it, it isn't wrong to feel pleasure.
2007-02-03 11:22:13 · answer #10 · answered by shogun 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋