I've NEVER drank alcohol (nor do i want to),I've NEVER done drugs,NEVER snuck out of my house,and NEVER missed my curfew. Im already going to college and I call my mother every time I drive somewhere.I call her when the movies going to be late or when I am going to be at my boyfriends house 10 minutes later.I have NEVER given her a reason not to trust me.My curfew is still 11:30,the same it's been since I was 14.I was just RECENTLY allowed in my boyfriends car.He's been driving since he was 15 and Im still not allowed to go the highway with him.This means, no beach, no clubs.The only place Im allowed to go is to the mall or the movies.If i go anywhere its with my boyfriend.Ive been with him for 2 years and they still call him my "friend".I respect them ten times more than my sister does and I cant do anything.I wish i could move out but i cant.NO MONEY.Ive tried talking to her calmly so has her sister & she just brushes us off. How can I get her to realize I grew up a LONG time ago?
2007-02-03 11:08:17 · 22 answers · asked by Erika R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
thats gay.
move.
2007-02-03 11:11:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Been there, done that! I'm 22, going on 13 in my mom's eyes. And I haven't lived at home since I was 17! (My live-in bf of three years also gets introduced as "friend") All I can say is move out. Keep making repsonsible decisions, and prove to your mom you have a good head on your shoulders. Sometimes, though, they never learn. And guess what?Chances are, you won't be any better with your daughters.
2007-02-03 14:23:14 · answer #2 · answered by oj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No wonder!! You act like you're about thirteen. You're in college and you call your mother every time you drive somewhere and when the movies are going to be late!!?? Wait you're a college student and you have a curfew.....and it's 11:30 and you're never late?!!! Let me guess.....you're mother lays out what she wants you to wair every day doesn't she? When you're out in public do you ask your mommy to take you to the little girls room? Maybe if you'd act your age they would have some trust...and some respect for you. Get a job, get your own place, and GET A LIFE!!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-03 11:31:22 · answer #3 · answered by Barry DaLive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you get her to realize that you grew up? Move out and get a place of your own. Then you can do whatever you want. Until then, as long as you are living under her roof, it's her rules you need to abide by. Sorry, just being truthful.Join the military. You get 3 meals a day, a place to sleep, they'll send you to school, and you'll have a job. Huh....sounds like a good deal to me.
2007-02-03 11:44:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is the right time to do some especial things for example you can go out without asking permission or even telling anyone! You can travel with him without asking permission and you can do stuff like that but do not forget not no ask for permission and when you come back, you easily say that you were with him and you are as old as you can make your own decision! Also you can say that it is your life and you can handle it in your own way. You know, you should prove them that you can manage your life individually! It is the time to show them you are not a child anymore! Try it and you will see the result but do not forget not to cry even they did and not to fear even they want it. Be successful.
2007-02-03 11:35:16 · answer #5 · answered by Nobody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best you can do is to remind them doing wrong can happen anyplace and anytime. Their trust in You has been earned and by giving You more freedom they permit you to better prepare for the life ahead. Instead of a need to sneak around You can enjoy open exchanges with them on Your ideas and understanding of why their being overprotective. Talking things out is better than blind obedience.
2007-02-03 11:23:17 · answer #6 · answered by mr conservative 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look...you are stuck until you are able to move out...The thing is...you are such a good child...nothing less will be excepted from you...I know that doesn't make sense...but it tends to work that way. It won't be forever. Maybe you should stop calling her at every turn...just say look mom...I am an adult...I don't feel I need to call you regarding my every move...just bit by bit start breaking down the barriers. Good luck.
2007-02-03 11:15:56 · answer #7 · answered by ticklemeblue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same thing as the rest are saying. You want the responsibility of being out and taking care of yourself than get a job and save money to move out. As long as your living at home, it's their rules and their responsibility to watch over you.
2007-02-03 11:16:28 · answer #8 · answered by azchick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but it;s something that your mother is going to have to understand herself. If your Aunt understands where you are coming from then I suggest going to stay with her. Does your boyfriend have his own CRIB? So go stay with him, if not then you have to deal with it I am sorry. OR go get a job and save your your money to leave, but then that means you are going to be taking away from school. Is it really as bad as you are making it out to be? can you stand it a little while longer until you can afford to leave?
2007-02-03 11:15:20 · answer #9 · answered by Shonda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to have a chat with your parents and let them know that you are no longer a child but on the other you still have to respect their wishes you still live in their home.. so its a catch 22 situation. but for sure talk to them about how you are responsible and yet they treat you like a child..... be grown up about it...
2007-02-03 12:04:56 · answer #10 · answered by bluedanube69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow ! Thats a tough one honey . She needs counselling. Tell me ! where is your father on this one. Let him talk to her . Explain your feelings to HIM is SHE wont listen to you.
Also get some respected elder in the family to butt in and give some assistance. I wish I could talk to her . boy she is something else .
good luckk babe
2007-02-03 11:17:09 · answer #11 · answered by rowell1608 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋