we were talking and i wa pouring my heart out about me ex and my therapist said "whats her name again?" this was on the 4th session, surley she should have remebered that? did not make me fill me with confidence, what else does she not remember?
what ya opinion
2007-02-03 10:55:16 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Your therapist has other patients and other people to deal with. It is not up to her (or even important) to remember the name of your ex. If she's listening to you and you feel she is helping you, you're overreacting.
2007-02-03 11:03:46 · answer #1 · answered by clarity 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are over-reacting about such a small matter. Do you remember everyone's names? You're state of mind is causing you to be anxious even about your own therapist, let alone your problems. So, try to think kinder about your therapist. However, you are paying them a lot of money I imagine, and you expect them to be totally on the ball at all times, but remember, she is only human and I doubt you are her only client. You may go home thinking about your issues 24 hours a day, but she goes home and switches off from her many clients she has. Her memory of everyone's issues is not perfect but she could have checked on file your ex's name if she tried harder but it was probably easier for her to simply ask you the girls name instead at the time.
If this is the only screw up she's made then just over look it and get on with it. If you are unhappy with her on a regular basis, then I would look at changing therapists. You have a right to do that at any time, and I'm sure there are many in your area. Its important you feel comfortable and happy with whom you are sharing things with.
But also try not to put all your hopes of a cure onto this one person, they are there to help you get through your crisis, but you need to help yourself as well.
2007-02-07 09:06:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No some people are really bad with names, it took me until the middle of my year at college to remember the names of some of the people in my smallest class even though i spent loads of time around them.
I could remember what bands they liked what they were into all kinds of stuff I just suck at names so do a lot of people.
I am sure you have made mistakes also and forgotten something from time to time don't get angry at them it was probably just a temporary slip of the mind.
2007-02-03 14:00:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not your therapist's fault. Sometimes when a person is in therapy they talk so fast as to not forget anything or the therapist maybe never heard that name and wanted to be sure before repeating it. This has happened to me numerous times and if it's not a persons name, it's my problem or the city I live in, and many other mistakes but it's not intentional.
2007-02-03 11:03:54 · answer #4 · answered by Marilyn B 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has "day's " like that, can't remember your own phone #etc. Is this therapist easy to talk to,and usually attentive etc?Give her a break even the best of professionals aren't perfect 100% of the time,and neither are we.Take care. SW RNP
2007-02-03 11:05:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just remember you're not the only person your therapist sees so she must have loads of names to remember, she's bound to forget one sometimes. At least she remembered that you have an ex so she must be paying attention.
2007-02-03 11:01:10 · answer #6 · answered by sundancer332003 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why should the therapist have to remember every ex girlfriends name? Do you have a clue how many patients they see every week? Would you be able to remember everyones dog and girlfriend and ex girlfriends name?
2007-02-03 10:59:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
The important thing is that she listens to you. I sometimes forget what peoples kids and partners are called, but I remember the things they say about their problems.
But she could at least have read her notes before the session to refresh her memory. I do.
2007-02-03 11:00:55 · answer #8 · answered by jeanimus 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think you have a right to be mad, but keep in mind that your therapist has a lot of clients, and she might have had a lot on her mind.
2007-02-03 11:04:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must feel dishonesty in your theripists trust now,they are only human mate,i've had one for 4 years now but i've heard her say a few things now that say she don't listen,but to be honest i think she is one of the best things that have happened to me.i take the things that she makes me come out with,that make me relise the person that i am,she brings it out of me,thats whats makes the diffrence to be honest!!!!
2007-02-03 11:10:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋