How can I be more talkative and confident around girls I've never met?

Question

Bascially when I meet new people I'm not comfortable around them until I start talking and then I might end up saying something stupid or something I don't know...

I think it has to do with the fact of how i see my self image I'm not a great looking guy but I have a good face I think it's jsut my body which I think makes girls avoid me. I paly football and I'm a lineman I'm not fat I just carry a little extra fat around my stomach legs, and butt. But I have all the muscle to make up for it also. I mean could the fact that I'm 6'3 260lbs be a factor in why girls don't like to talk to me? And why is it that it's so hard to start a conversation with random girls??

well I'm not very talkative in the first place, that's where my problem comes from, the way I was raised and how my dad is is how I am. Once people know me I'm more comfrtable andmy shy side is gone but when I'm around new people I just cant get over this wall that's blocking me. I have no problem going to a group of people as long as theres a few people in it i know. It's when the person I have my eye on is by themself that I cant approach them

oh yeah... www.myspace.com.davidhill89 just in case anyone wanted to know what I looked like

www.myspace.com/davidhill89 my bad

Answer 1

ALR's guide to trawling for chicks
Take a look around - some of the ugliest guys have hot chicks. It is not about body, it is about confidence.
1. Find a female friend (FF). These are your most important ally not only will they help you with items below, they will also set you up on dates with their fat friends. Don't refuse these, they will help build your confidence, and you don't need to marry them or even see them again. They may also surprise you, some fat girls are only like this because they don't have anyone to love. Do NOT try to shag your FF.
2. If you have spots, fix them. Go to the chemist with your FF, and get cleaners and cream. They do work, but you have to use them 3 times a day. Watch your diet if you can, double or triple your water intake, take a good multi-vitamin. Get plenty of sleep.
3. Get your FF to take you shopping for some new brand name clothes. Girls love guys in sharp clothes and can tell which shop they were bought in. This matters more than it ought to. Under no circumstances wear t-shirts, hoodies, track or sports gear of any sort.
4. Get your hair cut - in a salon not a barber shop. Say "yes" to hair product. Ask your FF which place is good, and be prepared for a horrendous bill - like 10 times what is costs at the barbers or more.
5. When you see someone you like the look of - have a question prepared. Women think they like conversation, but really they like to talk about themselves, and you need to promote this. for example in a bar say "Did I see you here last week - metallica were playing" if she says anything except "no", then you are in. If she is interested she will offer a bit of information, such as "no, I was in Reno" learn to spot this information and use it to develop a new Q. Always be positive "Really I was in Reno last year, do you prefer Vegas" is much better than " I think Reno sucks I was mugged there last month". Check out sites on job interview techniques and run through some role plays with your FF. Always tell her your name and ask hers by the fourth question.
6. Never, ever get drunk or high while trying to pick up. Drink low alcohol beer, or match your drinks with water glass for glass
7. Smile the whole time, look at their eyes not their lips, and especially not their melons
8. Stop the conversation inside 10 mins, say you need to see someone else, but would like to see her again, could you have her number. Have a pen and paper handy. A small spiral notebook is great but NOT empty, have notes about your studies or something. She will sneak a peek, so don't have any other ph numbers in it.
9. Don't look back, don't call her the very next day these make you look desperate

Answer 2

Same age as me ;) Im going to tackle the issue of you thinking you're ugly first :) I'm am so so sure you're not ugly! I used to think I was, when my best friend always gets all the boyfriends (she still does!) but you have to learn to appreciate and love what you have. After all, if you don't love yourself, how can anyone else love you? If you have a large nose (like me) but you have nice eyes, focus on your eyes. Maybe used make-up to accentuate them? When you learn to love what you have, you will become more confident about yourself, and more likely to be able to talk to new people. Also there is nothing wrong with being slim! Most people desire to be slim, and as long as you are healthy a worthwhile boy will respect you for taking care of yourself! Remember that many people have different tastes, as you will with boys. Some boys will prefer curvier figures while others will prefer slim ladies. Now for the problem with lads.. Once you've spent enough time amongst them the novelty starts to wear off and its really not such a big deal (unless, of course, you fancy one of them). I wouldn't worry about these girls having a head start, or about the fact that you're shy :) I didnt go to a girls school, I was in a mixed-sex school and the shy girls at my school often had a boyfriend! I think you just need time to get used to a couple of boys, make friends with them and go from there. Its not usually something you can achieve in one night when you're not used to it, I know I couldnt and I've been around lads every day for years! You should think about that lad in France. Why were you much more confident then? Was it because you weren't overshadowed by your friends do you think? Also think why he liked you :D see, someone's not so ugly after all ;) You're definately NOT a freak! :) I hope this helped and its not a load of waffle :\ :L ! Good luck next year :)

Answer 3

I would say just to be more confident. I mean, quarterbacks and football players, more girls I remember in high school especially, the cheerleaders would go wild for. Just be the man and with your size, don't be the kind that looks like a weakling. Atleast your not on steroids. I had a guy friend that took that and he became more confident. But, he had to go into the hospital. Some guys want to get where you are. Just approach them. Remember, most of them are smaller that you and there are girls out that that want a Schwartenegger but what do you think of Arnold acting like he is a fraidy cat? I hope I answered your question.

Answer 4

yesm you can i have met guys for the first time and they were almost jumping out their pants lol.
( i never had a boyfriend so its not like that )

but yeh u can be outgoing especially if u want to hook up just relax and open up start chating they compliments then a little flirt then u already doing something crazy.

Answer 5

Your size shouldn't matter, I see lots of larger guys with
girls/wives. Make sure you are clean, smell nice, fresh
breath etc. Also how you dress, try looser fit stuff. And
try to just start talking, you can start with a compliment.

Answer 6

just be yourself and dont hold back what u want to say enless its completly off subject or mean just say what u have on ur mind and soon u will find out that u have a great coversation and are confadient and talktive. just dont hold back what u want to talk about and if they dont like u for talking about then dont talk to them

Answer 7

Don't think about it so much. Just picture yourself talking to someone you have no fear and problems talking with.
After a little bit it will come very easy talking to anyone.
Good Luck

Answer 8

Two things.

One: Think before you speak; don't lie. It will help you relax.

Two: Remember we girls get nervous too, so if you take the initiative you will put us at ease; we will converse with you.

Good luck

Answer 9

i like confident but NOT talkative men. Talkative turn me off. just think before you talk..Don't try too hard, it always shows..just be your self and if she finds you interesting, she will respond well and you will end up having a good and enjoyable conversation.

remember don't do what other people do .. just be you (do you)

Answer 10

You just have to let go.
GO up to a girl, but dont do it in
a cocky way girls hate that!
do it respectfully, just go up and introduce ureself.
If shes nice she will surely talk to u
if she ignores u, then forget it
u dont need those type of ppl in ure life..