What do I do about her?

Question

My sister complains about what we eat ALL OF THE TIME! Every night she will scream and cry because we don't have McDonald's. She is 11, 4'11, and weighs 120...which is 14 pounds more than me! When we don't have anything to eat in the house that she wants, she screams and cries. My mom has limited her McDonald's to once a week. Right now our family is going through a lot of financial problems and we can't really afford anything but necessities. Like tonight...she started screaming at my dad because we didn't go to Friendly's because we only have twenty dollars...literally. She is mad because she only gets 4 ravioli's for dinner, too. And when she doesn't get something she wants, she starts saying she "needs" it, and she really doesn't. Like she just got a new pair of Heely's for Christmas and now wants a new pair of shoes. The only thing we can really do is give her my old shoes...which look like they have barely been worn. Now she screams and cried about that. Sometimes I want to do to

the mall to just look and stuff, because that is really all we can afford to do. But we can't because my little sister will start crying because she doesn't get what she wants. What do I do about her? We tried explaining to her that we don't have enough money for anything right now...but she won't listen. She thinks she is Paris Hilton. What do we do?

The only person that gives into her is my mom...and we are probably almost in debt! I don't know what to do about her! It is getting on my nerves.

Answer 1

Take it all away and don't let her get her way that is why she is like this because if ya give into her screaming and fits she has found a way to get what she wants just ignore her fits and make sure she doesn't get what she wants!!!

Answer 2

First off, McDonalds once a week is actually too much. Fast food should be avoided always and if she "needs" to have it, which she doesn't, once every 3-4 weeks is more than enough. I'd hate for the following comment to sound abusive but your sister needs a swift kick in the @$$! She doesn't seem to understand that there are millions of people all over the world that can only dream of having what she has. I'd try telling her that she can only have what she wants if she earns it. That means...good grades, good behavior, goo d manners, etc. I'm sorry to hear that you are in such dire straights but determined people always pull through. I wish you the best.

Answer 3

Stop giving in to her!! She screams and cries because it gets results. If the only results are negative, or even better, NOTHING, she will stop!
If she NEEDS it...she should be willing to WORK for it! That's a great test!! If she's not willing to lift a finger to get it, then she certainly doesn't need it!!
My daughter threw a tantrum, actually threw herself onto the floor, and thrashed around. I stepped over her, and continued across the room, and out the door. She ran, caught up with me, and proceeded to hurl herself onto the floor again. Same result...I stepped over her, left the room, and continued about my business. It didn't take very long for this four year old to catch on...the tantrums ceased, because they got NO RESULTS!
From the sound of things, your sister is quite a bit older than four, and is still having tantrums, because everyone is rushing to her, and trying to fix things, and explain things to her. Even if she doesn't get her way, she is STILL the center of attention. It's time to stop treating her like a four year old, and then she will stop acting like one!!

Good luck...it isn't going to be easy...if you've been giving in to her for years and years, it's going to take a little while to convince her that you mean business, but it will be worth it!!

Answer 4

She sounds like she has a problem, Set boundaries with her. Go to the mall and tell her that you are disappointed that she won't act like a lady. If she could stop acting like a spoiled brat than you would be happy to take her. Maybe that will jar some sence into her.You sound mature and understanding of your families situation.

Answer 5

Sounds like a spoiled brat.
I wouldn't even give her McD's once a week!
I grew up in a family of nine kids, my dad was disabled and an uncle lived with us. I wore a lot of hand me downs, it was just how it was!

Sorry your family is having it so rough. Do you
have a church family that can help? A food pantry?
I'll pray for you.

Answer 6

Tell her the difference between Paris and her, is about a few million dollars!!!!

Answer 7

Maybe you should all go and visit a financial adviser.