He was friends with a girl and used to hang out with her all the time. But then she became pregnant and he swears that it is not his. That they were just friends and nothing went on like that between them. But she swears that they were in a relationship and he cheated on her with me when we started to date. He says the only way that it is his is if was drunk one night. But she has told him he will be served with child support papers. Even his family has said that they would do nothing all the time but have sex. What do I do? Do I just wait for the results of the paternity test since it was before me. Am I just overreacting about this. I have dealt with this in the past with someone els. I don't want to be with someone who won't tell me the truth.
2007-02-03 10:46:41 · 15 answers · asked by Robyn H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dump him fast. He is lying to you. Do you want to be with someone that's always going to make excuses to why he is such a loser? Or, do you want to be with someone who is going to step up and be responsible? Just remember, when you get pregnant, he is going to run away from you just as fast as he ran away from his ex. There are plenty of guys better than this dude. Dump him and find someone else.
2007-02-03 10:55:54 · answer #1 · answered by Sax M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-06 06:00:05 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd wait until the DNA comes back and then I'd take it from there cause from what I read so far u should trust no one and suspect every one, It sounds like a catch 22 situation cause that grl didn't have that baby by herself and she isn't a species that's both male and female like a snail.If he cheated on her then what makes u think u are the only woman in his life (besides his mother) and how do u know where he is and who he's with and what he's doing when he's not w/u .Besides why does a guy hang out with one grl constantly if they weren't in a relationship. Someone was lying and I really think u should kick dude to the curb and lose that lying zero for a truth telling hero.U don't want a relationship 2 grow from a bed of lies .
2007-02-03 12:03:05 · answer #3 · answered by thelilsxysmoothone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you all ready know the answer.... if you've been this before, I mean if you feel the same now in your gut as you did before , chances are this one is lieing too. He probably did cheat on that other girl with you, some guys are straight up dogs and instead of being supportive of this girl being pregnant, hes running as fast as he can to the next. Being a real man means being responsible for his actions. That doesn't mean he needs to stay with the other girl, but he should stand up and be honest and not lie about it... The truth ALWAYS comes out in the end..
2007-02-03 10:57:47 · answer #4 · answered by Tamra P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not overreacting. Do you care that he had sex with someone before you? Then deal with that issue and move on to the next. Do you care that if he did have sex with someone before you and is lying about it? Then deal with that issue and move on to the next. If you still haven't left him, then do you care if he does have a child before you and he got together? Then deal with this issue and move on to the next.
In my opinion, you've got a guy who isnt truthful with his own family supporting this contention. Why would you want to be with someone who is inherently dishonest? Sounds like you should tell him that he's not the right guy for you and you should, wait for it, here it comes, MOVE ON!
2007-02-03 10:55:45 · answer #5 · answered by Hank Hill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If his family is saying that he had sex with this girl, you can bet they wouldn't lie. Why would they try to sabbotage their own son? You are getting clear signals that you can't trust him. You're hearing from several sources that he had sex with this girl - now she's pregnant and he's denying paternity. It's not a surprise. Why would he admit to it and risk losing you?
Dump him. You can't trust him and he's probably going to be a father soon. You don't want to be tangled up in that.
2007-02-03 10:54:24 · answer #6 · answered by Galoshes 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your boy does not want to take any responsibility for his actions. I bet you, six months from today, you are going to be the girl serving him with child support papers if you don’t plug your hole. Cause you sound naïve and easily fooled.
2007-02-03 11:04:17 · answer #7 · answered by 2020 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing you can do until he gets the papers, and then he will have to get a paternity test. pending the results, you need to decide whether or not you will leave him if he is lying.
2007-02-03 10:54:12 · answer #8 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the family is telling you "all they did was have sex." RED FLAG! He's telling a lie. Move on, unless you want to be trapped with baby mama drama.
2007-02-03 10:51:43 · answer #9 · answered by Nerds Rule! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It happened to me and I left him. Nobody needs a lying cheating man.
2007-02-03 10:53:47 · answer #10 · answered by tina 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋