I have been hooking up with a guy for over two years now. It has almost always been a thing where one of us would call the other when we were drunk and we would hook up. This past summer I thought there was a possibility that I might like him. I asked him if he had any feelings for me. He said no and that he didnt want to hook up with me anymore. After some time he contacted me and we started hooking up again. I then realized that I did not like him any more than a friend with benefits. The thing is I am starting to get bored with the same old thing. I do not think that there is any potential for a relationship because the only relationship we have now is sex. Also we are both about to graduate from college and I am afraid that after that we will never speak or see eachother again. However, that could be very strange because we have been hooking up for so long. I know I should stop hooking up with him but I just cannot resist it. What should I do?
2007-02-03 10:44:39 · 17 answers · asked by Sarah E 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Go out and find yourself a real man who like you and you like and you both want to spent time together doing other things then playing bed room bounce
2007-02-03 10:49:29 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find another buddy or get into a relationship. You sound like you may be ready and was possibly looking at this guy to have a relationship with, and now you know that he doesnt want that, so you want to end it.
So end it.
You have no ties to him, its as simple as dont answer the phone anymore and dont call him when you have had one too many.
Find another companion to share time with.
I am sure he will do the same
neither of you owe each other anything since the relationship, if thats what you wanna call it, consisted of no emotional involvement or commitment.
Good luck.
2007-02-03 18:52:04 · answer #2 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think you should sit down and talk to him and tell him how you feel..and if your scared that you will never talk to him after you graduated tell him that..I had a booty call for 5 years off and on..we lost contact but we always find each other again and things are still cool till this day..just have a little faith...
2007-02-03 18:50:38 · answer #3 · answered by Tara 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You haven't had any sort or meaningful relationship in two years? You already know you don't want a relationship, the sex is getting old, and you're graduating. Time to grow up.
2007-02-03 18:52:49 · answer #4 · answered by Dark 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just hooking up from time to time but not as frequently, until you find someone better. Why not have some fun while you are looking?
2007-02-03 18:48:10 · answer #5 · answered by GoldenAngel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was exactly where you are. I just stopped cold turkey.
Believe me, I had better things to do that go out and do the same boring thing time and time again. When you'd rather being doing anything but using and getting used, you are ready just to go it cold turkey.
2007-02-03 18:49:03 · answer #6 · answered by ME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends with benefits is ok, but when the fun is lacking there is really no point. If you wanna keep this guy as a friends talk to him bout and see what happens if he just wants u as a 'sex buddy' then whats he worth? I rekon you should find yourself someone who doesnt only like you for the sex.. but other things to. Just see wat happens
2007-02-03 18:51:30 · answer #7 · answered by bella_girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweety MOVE ON!!!!! speaking from experience. Been through the same ****. The only thing that is keeping you with him is lust not love. And i know you've said it's been 2 years. And it feels like love but it's not. Your just a sex toy. Sounds Like your emotions are being ****** with. MOVE ON!!!!!!!
2007-02-03 18:53:05 · answer #8 · answered by S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THERE IS NO, NONE, NADA POSSABILITY OF A RELATIONSHIP you said so as did he so get a move on to aNEW boy! Keep it as awarm fuzzy memory but move on, when you are doing nekkid things with the new guy you will so forget about whatshisname!
2007-02-03 18:49:01 · answer #9 · answered by bikinibabewannabe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly if there are no feelings involved and you two can have sex and walk away just friends with no strings, what's the problem?
2007-02-03 18:49:10 · answer #10 · answered by jobs1012003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋