I am a doctor and i love a guy who is less educated and poor. He is 46 years old and i think has very low chances of getting education and good job. i love him because he is a good guy. can i marry him?
2007-02-03 10:41:08 · 27 answers · asked by Sue 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Anyone can marry anyone else. Social standing and education have nothing to do with love. It is more important that you two are compatible with each other than anything else. Dont try to change him - number one mistake everyone makes thinking they can change their partner into something more desireable. If he has the capacity for change, just being around you with you being the way you are will change him and lift him up to a new level. Just make sure he is not dating you for you money.
2007-02-03 10:46:37 · answer #1 · answered by MrKnowItAll 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because he is a good guy doesnt mean that he is the right person for you to marry. If you feel that there is low chances of him getting a education and a good job it sounds like your already looking down on him.
Your the only one who can decide if you want to be with him or not, but I would think about it seriously before you decide to get involved with a man that you feel has no future.
If you dont have faith in him, dont you think he deserves someone who does have the faith in him, that you dont. good luck.
2007-02-03 18:50:46 · answer #2 · answered by hopefloats 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well at 46 that is a lil cause for worry that he's not established or anything, but before you talk marriage he should try to find work and if he wants he can still go back and take classes or something then find a better job. But hopefully he's not usin you because you're a doctor, some older men these days will do that so you gotta watch. Before you marry him, make sure he's at least makin an attempt get it together and get a job first and foremost.
2007-02-03 18:44:58 · answer #3 · answered by jobs1012003 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I like some of my friends have met and fell in love with men who are not as educated as us. I met my husband six years ago. When I first saw him I thought He was so handsome. We danced and went for a walk along the beach. After that we talked on the phone for weeks before I would see him again. He was honest with me. His mom just passed away. He sold everything he had a moved three thousand miles away. I knew he was broke. I knew I made more money than him. That was six years ago. We have been married for two years. He is now studying to be a chef. I work in a children's hospital as a coordinator. Just make sure you man wants to work. I think it is important for there self esteem. Make sure he is not one of the ones that just out there looking for a free ride in life.
2007-02-03 18:56:57 · answer #4 · answered by Janst 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he works I see no problem. But if he just want to spend the day watching tv waiting for you to bring his bear then I see a problem.
But if he is as you say, a good guy (wich is a rare thing) then why not; is better than getting a richer and well educated jerk. Good men are hard to find, so when you find one better hold at him before someone else put her eyes on him.
Just don't rush keep dating and see how thing works. And a pre-nup is not a bad idea if you have a lot of meoney (I wouldn't get offended if asked to sign one, but that's me).
2007-02-03 18:50:30 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can marry him! If you love him because he is a good guy then go for it. They are really hard to find these days. Don't judge him on how he was brought up or what he's going through. If you love him and he loves you, then marry him. I'm sure you'd bring out the best in him. I wish you the best of luck!!!
2007-02-03 18:47:52 · answer #6 · answered by Brittany Rae 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is a good guy and he is decent to you, don't let little pieces of green paper get in the middle of that. If you are so educated you should know you shouldn't marry someone because of status and your ego is a little on the large side.
2007-02-03 18:50:13 · answer #7 · answered by l'il mama 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. Make sure he is ok with it, and has given a LOT of thought as to if he would be jealous and "not feel like a real man"... because men define themselves by their work, and he may not be able to help feeling insecure about the situation.
2. No matter HOW much you love him,.. GET A PRE-NUP... you will NEVER regret it...
if the marriage works.. great, you can never look at the pre-nup and keep it tucked away...
and if the marriage ends.. you will be SO happy you got it.
2007-02-03 18:48:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure but sign a pre nup. You say U think he has poor chance of education.... sound like you already doubt him anyway. I know 70yr olds who go back to further thier education. It's never too late. If you love him and are truley compatable marry but protect your worth.
2007-02-03 18:48:00 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly love him and you are a doctor, take a risk and pay for his education. God knows you can afford it, right? Maybe that way you won't feel so bad about falling in love with someone who is 'poor.'
2007-02-03 18:46:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋