My bf likes porn and I have know this since we got together, he a about 4 videos at home. He never really use to watch it all that much and he knows how I feel about it. I was raped and have been in abusive realtionship in the past (which he also knew about). Ok, we don't have sex alot (some of this has to do with my past, which I am trying to work on), i found some pron on his computer and was very upset, and I did say something along the line of "I'm sorry I'm not more like them", he tells me those have been on there for a while. Ok, I bought t hat at first, but there is a way to see what someone is looking at on the internet everyday. i found this out on accident, but now I know for sure he goes to this one site almost everyday, and I can see every one that he looks at. We have been together in about 2 weeks, but you have to understand i work 2 jobs 7 days a week. Knowing that he goes to this site EVERYDAY does not help. I am trying t o fix my issues, but porn doesn't help.
2007-02-03 10:24:20 · 5 answers · asked by kat 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Porn makes me feel like I'm not good enough or that I don't please him. While I am trying to help IMPROVE our sex life, he continues to watch porn. I'm not so good at saying how I feel, but I do love him and it hurts. What do I do?
Do men even begin to understand how porn makes women feel and do they even care?
How are we supposed to know who you are thinking about during.
Personal I will fight for my man, but how do you fight a computer?
2007-02-03 10:32:32 · update #1
It sounds like you're confusing the way your bf thinks about porn and the way he thinks about you.
Porn is escapism with no obligations; it's pure fantasy. Everyone has sexual fantasies; thinking about your own, I'm sure they're not always about your boyfriend, and I'm sure that doesn't mean you love him any less. Fantasy, and porn, are a temporary removal from reality. Your boy doesn't (or shouldn't) expect you to look like a porn star, or do what they do, and comparing yourself to them is really counter productive. After all, do you expect him to look like the men in your fantasies? (George Clooney comes to mind, or if you've seen porn, the men in porn)
If he's sticking with you while you work out your issues, he obviously really cares about you, and wants to be with you.
If you're still uncomfortable about this, talk with him. Maybe watch some porn with him and discuss how it makes you feel afterwards. You could also try negotiating a limit to the amount of porn he accesses, that you both agree on.
2007-02-04 13:02:07 · answer #1 · answered by Kat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, first of all, porn doesn't affect all women as it does you. Therfor, not all women feel that way. Second, if he watches it that much and it bothers you that much, maybe he's bored....i mean find him another activity that he can do during the day so that he's not in front of the computer so much.
2007-02-11 12:46:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first you shouldn't ever date a guy who's got porn videos. he's going to be comparing you to those other fake girls and that's not what a relationships about. tell him to stop, if he doesn't then leave, there's no room for both porn and a relationship.
2007-02-11 16:37:13 · answer #3 · answered by Love Doctor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I had a girlfriend, I wouldn't need porn......I'd consider myself damn lucky to have a girlfriend.
2007-02-11 16:01:24 · answer #4 · answered by Matsukaze 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for ur question on how to fight a computer is u just unplug it
2007-02-11 18:26:48 · answer #5 · answered by jenny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋