i just asked but maybe i wasn't specific HELP??

Question

Ok I am not aloud 2 have a boyfreind ( im 11), i like "LOVE" this guy he feels the same way wut should i do? and dont say i dont no wut luv is 'cause i no more than a 30 yr old woman

Answer 1

Love is real at all age levels. Love means something different at those age levels. Knowing what is acceptable at your age of 11 is important. Communicate with your parent(s). You may not be allowed to have a boyfriend at your age, but ask them if it's OK if you have a special or close friend. It's important to realize that love does not mean sexual behavior. Keep the love innocent and pure. It is equally important to communicate with your parents. A boyfriend is not usually a substitute for family.

Answer 2

LOL... when I was 11 I thought I knew more than a 30 year old woman. When you're 30 you're going to look back and laugh at the fact that you said that.

If you love this guy, and he loves you... what does him being your "boyfriend" have to do with anything. It's just a word, title, status. It doesn't change how you feel about one another does it? So... what does it matter if he can't be your "boyfriend"?

Going behind your parents back to make him your "boyfriend" would only do more harm than good. First you're being sneaky and hiding something (and your parents will probably figure it out). If they do find out, then you've lost their trust. It's not worth the trouble.

If you like one another, that's all that matters. Just because he can't be your "boyfriend" doesn't mean you can't be friends, or that you can't still like one another.

Have you tried talking to your parents about the situation? Have to tried asking them if he might be able to come over for dinner or something one day? Do you know if he is even allowed to have a girlfriend?

Relax hun, it's not as bad as it may seem. =-)

Answer 3

honestly wait. You have so much more to learn then LOVE right now. Take it from me. It's a beautiful thing but it's too stressful for you to handle right now. You guys can't go on dates, he has no money and neither do you. I am sure your parents are not going to treat you two as a couple so just be good friends. Having a friend is something that a lot of adults miss, so enjoy being a kid and growing into a young successful ADULT. Stay strong and focused and if it is really meant for you to be together you guys will find your way when the time is right.

Answer 4

You don't know what you're doing... At 11, your mind and body are still devloping, and I'm sure you heard this from a lot of people so far. Most likely, you just think you like him for some alternative reason- puppy love, etc. If you think you really like him, name off some traits of his that you like. If you can think of less then two things, I can't really vouch it's love...

But, if you really do like him (chances against, though), just chill out. You don't need to go out with him, you don't need to push the relationship. If your parents don't let you actively 'go out,' then join a club with him, try hanging out without actually dating and having a boyfriend. Discuss with your parents (logically) why you should be allowed to have a boyfriend and such... But if all else fails, you still have 80 years of your life ahead of you, give or take. Relax, because if even you have to wait 5 years, you can still hang out with your guy for 75. ;)

Answer 5

well you know more than a 30 year old women, then telling you anything would just be a waste of my breath. so why are you asking for help, you luv him so just keep seeing him, start having s e x with him and maybe you can knock out a few kids before your 15, and even a few more before your 21. and then you and all your kids can live in poverty the rest of your life, and if your really lucky maybe all your kids will be girls, and you can have 10 to 20 grands before your 35. yeah you know it all.

Answer 6

I certainly won't tell you that you dont know what love is : )
But, try to understand that your parents 'love' you and that is why they are trying to protect you. They dont want you to grow up too early and dont want to see you get hurt.
You are normal for having these feelings at 11. But, try to understand that if its true love you will still feel this way in a few years when you can have him as your boyfriend.
Hang in there and try to understand that your parents are only doing what they think is best for you. They dont want to let go of their little girl! Enjoy being 11 because you only get to be 11 once in your life!
Good luck. Try not to be too hard or mad at your parents.
I promise, at your age it will only make life harder if you give them an attitude...

Answer 7

There are different kinds of love. You have to go thru many different kinds of love before you experience the type you have as a spouse and a parent. Every stage of love thru your life molds you into the person you will be as an adult. Enjoy each phase as it is. Keep what you feel innocent and fresh. Avoid any sexual activity. Focus on the things you like to do. Write poetry or keep a journal to express your feelings. You are too young to date, but not to young to feel emotion. But the love you feel is an extention of friendship... a very special kind of friendship... something to enjoy. Take time to have fun with phone calls, share your thoughts of music and movies. Meet at basketball games with friends. I remember "going with" a super cute boy in 6th grade. WE were the class couple. 100 years later, we're still good friends.

Answer 8

more than a 30 year old woman i drought that, but me, well ya I'll agree to that don't think Ive ever really been in love before, oh Ive dated and married once, but never got the chance to experience real love, as for you well you have a lifetime and pro bally many different boyfriends, don't rush your life, if its real love-he'll still be around when your old enough to have a boyfriend and date, enjoy life, dont rush it,you'll be old enough faster than you want, then you'll be praying you were 11 again

Answer 9

if you know more than a 30 yr old woman, then you should know that your to young to start taking things so serious, you have a lot to look forward to before worrying about loving someone so early, if you really think you do, then slow down ,make it last and enjoy your friendship and make sure it is love never rush take your time.

Answer 10

You may know what love is at your age, yet at your age you should be liking boys and having fun. Make friends first with these boys and then when you get to highschool and are allowed to date, you can see if you feel the same way about this boy and make it more steady. there are many many fish in the pond your fishing in now. PLEANTY of time to spend with these creatures they want to call them selfs men