My sister was arrested for a felony crime, arson. She is a drug addict and an alcoholic and has drained my family emotionally, physically and financially. We have made a pact that she will remain in jail until her trial. I am wondering if anyone else has been in this situation. I am very embarrassed, sad, and numb. I am so angry at what her abuse has done to our family and I want her to get better and to learn to be responsible. Does anyone know FIRST HAND what I am going through?
2007-02-03 10:17:25 · 6 answers · asked by TwinkaTee 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My older brother had some drug issues when he was a teenager, and was running with the wrong crowd. He ended up taking one of my dad's guns, and doing a strong armed robbery...stealing a car. He ended up in a juvenile facility for 3 years. It cost my family dearly...both emotionally and financially. When he came out of the juvie jail, he was definitely a changed person. He wasn't the wild child anymore. He had learned some usable skills and gotten his GED while he was there. I was only around 11 when he did this (32 now).
I really think he learned his lesson, as he has stayed on the right side of the law ever since. His drug problems weren't at the addict phase....just pot and speed I think...so he didn't have to worry about detox. I'm not completely sure about what the jail system does for addicts, but jail may just scare the crap out of her enough to make her straighten up.
2007-02-04 01:06:31 · answer #1 · answered by Carol S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have been on both sides of the fence and what I mean by that is I have had a brother locked up for drug dealing and I was a caseworker at a halfway house. All I can tell you is that it does hurt to see them there but they are there for a reason. The times we did run to my brothers rescue he would always go back in until finally we left him there and he stayed for 10 years. He is out and has a full time job because he had time to realize what was more important. Also as a caseworker I go to see many of my inmates who truly were not ready to face the world again but they had to and every time i did a check on them they were locked back up because it became their safe haven. They dont like themselves on the drugs but cant function without them more so cant deal with life''s every demands. The only way your sister will be okay is if she is for real with her self. Meaning she should understand what her weakness is and remove herself from the environment first. I was not at all embarassed though about my brother because ate least he still had a chance because he still had breath in his body. As long as you pray to God it is never too late. I seen so many women strung out on drugs that we shipped back because with just the little freedom we gave them they abused it by finding a way to get drugs. It is serious. I wish you and your family well. Stay blessed!!
2007-02-03 10:31:36 · answer #2 · answered by shay80800 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son , when he was younger was getting himself into trouble and had a bad habit of taking my car without permission(he had no driver's license) and I told him if he did it again I would report it stolen.Well he did and I did and he was incarcerated and I went to see him and it broke my heart to see him through the glass wall.
On the bright side, a couple of months ago he actually thanked me for doing it because he feels if I hadn't he would be doing pen time now.
My point is sometimes some people do have to learn the hard way.
Continue to love her but do not accept the behavior.
Good luck to you all.
2007-02-03 11:08:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother was in jail for 2 weeks and it was the hardest 2 weeks of my life let alone the LONGEST 2 weeks of my life i cried myself to sleep everynight.. Knowing he is sleeping there on the floor ( yes he had to sleep on the floor as the jail is over housed ) with no mattress nothing and here i am sleeping in nice cozy bed it was hard. And he is inisent.... ITs hard but if she did the crime she best do her time and yes it might be hard to live wile shes there hopefully she will learn her lesson i know it made my brother grow up in alot of ways in his life from being in there just think she will have that memory of being in there for the rest of her life.
Keep your chin up. This too shall pass
2007-02-03 10:29:31 · answer #4 · answered by a b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, sweetie. My sister was in jail for all of 30 hours and it was totally unbearable for my family. I can imagine what you are going through. Just keep open communication with her, don't pacify her by not mentioning her issues, but at the same time offer her love and support. Sorry what you are going through. Keep praying, it changes things.
2007-02-03 10:22:07 · answer #5 · answered by Sleek 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good luck with your sister
2007-02-03 10:45:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋