heres te deal we have been together for 10 months and i love him with all my heart but sometimes i have the feeling he is cheatin on me....he goes back and forth from home and la to record his music and i support him (give him money to do his music) and i just dont know....and i give him everything i can money love attention care...but when i was down in the gutter he paid for my bills food everything...andi guess i just returning the favor now that i am finacially set....and i am pregnant with his baby and want to be with him forever....i just have those feelings like im being played....and i know he loves me.....plz give as much advice as possible.....thank you
2007-02-03 10:15:55 · 7 answers · asked by mommy since 1407!! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No offense, but to me it's sounds like u r being used. Does he support u like u support him with his career? Does he get the best for u even if it means that he has to sacrifice something important to him like u do? Ask yourself these questions, and see if his feelings for you are sincere, or if he's just using for a free ride to fame. It may seem harsh, but the better you are off without him if he is using u. Best Wishes
2007-02-03 10:43:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to talk seriously with him about marriage and starting a family. And you are going to have to decide if your trust in him is good enough for you, or if you absolutely must know who he is bopping over in LA. The thing is he keeps coming back to you. You have to let him know that once married, for a while at least you are going to be a stay at home mother . You cant have him abandoning you in your hour of need. So find out if the commitment is there or not. If not, then it's just a comfortable relationship for him. If you really want the relationship to be totally open, then you have to risk asking him about the girl in LA - but you cant interfere with that relationship - be understanding and ask him to give you her phone number in case of emergencies. The jealously stuff and wanting to own someone like a possession wont cut it. You can tell him your are pissed, but dont call the girl and harrass her either. If he asks if that means the relationship is totally open, then be blunt and say "no it doesnt - it means I am allowing you to have her on the side and that's it - dont get any funny ideas about making a harem - i still dont like it". Being able to handle an affair or infidelity can be the key to a long term success. If the guy is not a TOTAL heel, he will eventually cave in to just you. After all, the other girl is just some temporary.
2007-02-03 10:29:45 · answer #2 · answered by MrKnowItAll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you are but I would say you should NOT be paying for his anything! If he stays true to you great but if not you will set yourself in the habit of paying for your mans wants and needs and that is a bad habit to get into. If he is truely a man he will stick with you and pay for taking care of you and the baby and what ever his needs and wants are too. Nothing wrong with you having a job and contributing to the relationship but let him man up first. See how good a provider he is for the 3 of you...he is a daddy now...he needs to do what ever it takes to support you and the baby and running off to LA is something that should take a back seat unless he is ACTUALLY making good money at it and able to support you. Family and relationships come first before a DREAM. P.S if you are pretty good about making proper decisions in your life, go with your GUT!
2007-02-03 10:28:39 · answer #3 · answered by WildFlower63 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever heard the old saying "Trust your gut instinct". Thats what u need to do. If you really feel that he is cheating. Talk to him about it. And take things from there.
2007-02-03 10:28:06 · answer #4 · answered by americangurl_28 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sex outside of marriage was your first mistake. Your second is giving him money without knowing him longer. Just ask him, youll never know untill you do.
2007-02-03 10:22:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do the same thang yall ben doin
2007-02-03 10:20:40 · answer #6 · answered by lildee c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ask him if you love him enough you two can share your thoughts!
2007-02-03 10:20:46 · answer #7 · answered by <3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋