one of my very close friends asked me to go out with him. we got together one nite as boyfriend and girlfriend. later in the nite he insisted on ringing all our friends and telling them the news and he told his parents as well. the next day he came to my house and we had a great day with each other and when he was leaving he told me that he hoped i didnt change my mind and he was really happy. a few hours later he txt me saying that he didnt think he wanted a relatonship after all and said we shouldnt be with each other. why did he change his mind the only explanation he gave me was that he decided he wasnt ready for a relationship. i dont understand how someone can change his mind so quick. i asked him the next day and he said he already xplained and didnt want to have to again.
2007-02-03 10:10:42 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That is awful and I can understand why you are so confused. He sounds a little bit excitable if you ask me - it is not normal to call your friends and family to tell them you are going out with someone - while you are still on the date! I think you are just going to have to take him with a pinch of salt - you started out as friends and i think that may be where you should remain. I know it is hard, but he does sound a little too unpredictable and perhaps even self-obsessed.
2007-02-03 10:16:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry! This has happened to me recently so I totally know how you must be feeling. In my case we remained friends and he eventually told me that his parents didn't think I was a suitable match (I am 2 yrs older and we come from different cultural backgrounds). I thought knowing the reason would make me feel better but it didn't, in fact it made me feel worse because it was so pathetic. So what I would say no matter the reason you just need to respect that he doesn't want to be with you. You deserve better than this, just focus your energies on getting past this. All the best x
2007-02-04 05:14:14 · answer #2 · answered by Yaz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could do with more info here
a. did you sleep with him after him telling every one? if so he may have been thinking about sleeping with you a while and then when he had was happy enough?
b did he do all the running in this or did you....if you did then he may have been in doubt from the start then backed out
if he did all the running he may have just bottled it or he is an *** maybe
there could be a million reasons but what i think your best doing is explaing what you have to us in this question and direct it at him if he tries and fobs you off again just say were supposed to be good friends dont treat me this was and that you deserve an answer?
if i was you just go and get your self a nice guy and forget about him he will regret it soon enough xxx
2007-02-03 19:42:41 · answer #3 · answered by Sean C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's really bad. I have a tendancy to get carried away at the start of relationships but calling all your friends seems a bit extreme.
As for changing his mind, it sounds like someone's been whispering in his ear about you...
Perhaps try to talk to him as a friend? Appeal to the person you used to be friends with, and if he still gives no good reason, perhaps you're better off without a friend like that...
2007-02-03 19:18:56 · answer #4 · answered by Starlight87 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it possible someone has gotten to him & got him to change his mind....you never know maybe someones even told him lies about you in order to get him to back off....it's difficult to know really but I don't think it's a case of cold feet here...but unless he is prepared to talk to you about it you may never find out the real reason....sorry about this happening to you....I'd try to find out what really caused the change of heart....Someone or something has got at him I reckon...either way I wouldn't be too pleased that he didn't feel he ought to allow me to have a say in defending myself though....that's IF my theory is right of course....is there any way someone could have frightened him off for whatever reason?
I'm not being funny here but does he have any mental problems?
Very strange behaviour though....doesn't make sense at all. Good luck â¥
2007-02-03 18:33:50 · answer #5 · answered by Funky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you sleep with him? He doesn't appear to be a very good friend after all, ignoring you and refusing to discuss it again. I think he appears to be very in mature and has no right to hurt you like that. You deserve and warrant an explanation. Good luck Sweetie.
2007-02-03 18:23:44 · answer #6 · answered by ambertottie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like one of his friends or even parents talked to him and convinced him it wasn't right for some reason. Nothing slows a relationship down like friends!
2007-02-03 18:13:58 · answer #7 · answered by merlin_steele 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's happend to me a few times... kind of.. anyway my best advice would be move on and find someone new. I know it hurts, really bad... espeically when you care about them... I wish you the best of luck finding someone new.
2007-02-03 18:17:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably didn't want to ruin your friendship. Cuz if you guys break up then you wouldn't be as close as before.Or it could be that it was awkward dating his best friend.
2007-02-03 18:16:45 · answer #9 · answered by Gabby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he might have just thought about it and thought how it would interfere with Ur friendship if not they he may be just a normally bloke they all can be arses
2007-02-03 18:14:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋