How can anyone judge that his/her spouse have kept virginity for him?

Question

i am 31, unmarried & still virgin.

Answer 1

Hi WOW !!!! now a days you are in a very small circle of 31 year old virgins! Its really nice to see you have morals and find them to be very important to you , and here you are waiting for your spouse to be the one and only. I truly do congratulate you!!!!I find that a truly a good quality of love inside you. How can you tell if someone is a virgin??? I think you know the answer, just listen to your inner feelings! You know how you feel, you have a comfort zone when talking about sex. I know you will meet your match, it just may take a while. If this society!!!! hasn't ruined young girls minds, you may find a virgin girl! I think a man may be easier to refrain from having sex before marriage. Young girls sub-come to sex in the way that their peers push them early in their lives. Men or young men seem to be more quite and not talking about their sex lives as much..so peer pressure may allow them to remain a virgin longer. .Just remember a girl will be hesitant to have sex the first time, as its uncomfortable for them.....sometimes they will bleed during or after their first time with a man. As far a s a man... he may be reluctant to go all the way, feeling clumsy or unsure of how long to make love....perhaps unable to keep controll of is actions and end the sexual experience to soon?????Um so thats my thoughts><>

Answer 2

Does it really matter? I mean, I know it's romantic and sweet and wonderful if he/she abstains from sex until marriage, but that may not be the case w/ you. I am a virgin and engaged to be married this summer. I have kept myself for my husband, but my fiance is not a virgin by any stretch of the imagination. He was a partier. I always dreamed I would marry a virgin, and at first I was disappointed, but now I know all that matters is that he WISHES he would have saved himself for me and feels undeserving of me. I think that you shouldn't judge whether he/she is a virgin. As long as he/she has promised to be with you and only you from this day forward, what does it matter?

Answer 3

There are somethings that depend merely on trust. Like a mother is a father of a child is the truth, but a father is the father of the child is mere trust. It's not a good idea to keep scratching those things. That can make your life pretty uncomfortable.

Just love your spouse and trust her. her past doesn't matter at all if she loves you... Else don't marry..

:-)

Answer 4

You bypass woman! I type of fudged it somewhat with my fiance at age 21, yet change right into a virgin earlier to him. i wager you ought to say i change into using bill Clinton's definition, in case you capture my meaning! i idea (and nevertheless do) strongly contained in the acceptable of virginity earlier to marriage as a Christian, and it change right into a own remorseful about of mine that i could not withstand the temptation and uphold this conventional. I actually have tried to positioned across this value to my toddlers, and spoke of the pitfalls and unintentional outcomes of no longer living as God meant at each and every threat and "teachable second". i will merely desire and pray that even with the message they're getting from society, the media, and merely the overall ideas-set of human beings in accordance for your "thumbs down" that someway they are going to pay interest to mama and God's be conscious. i did not sense by any means disadvantaged at having restricted sexual journey when I were given married, and that i do not imagine it ought to have made a distinction contained in the fulfillment of my marriage (we divorced after 2 a lengthy time period jointly, yet that is an finished different tale--sex change into no longer the challenge!) If something, the actual undeniable actuality that i did not thoroughly wait would have performed a section in God's advantages (or lack thereof) on our union. If I were you i should be very pleased with it--you're a uncommon treasure that your husband might want to really cherish!

Answer 5

If you are in doubt and it is something that is that important to you, you shouldn't get married. You need to trust that the girl is telling you the truth.

You may also decide that it is not that big of a deal. There are very few people who save themselves anymore (and I think its great those who do) but by knocking out non-virgins, you are knocking out most women, and you can't really control who you fall in love with.

Answer 6

I don't mean to be harsh, and admire your choice to abstain until marriage but if you ask and don't believe her answer then you would appear to have some trust issues with her that should probably not follow you into a marriage..
If you can't ask the question at all then there are more likely bigger issues in your relationship. - ask - and if you trust her - as you should when you agree to marry someone then all is well.

The best of luck to you!

Answer 7

Um. If you don't trust her ... why are you married? And in this day and age is it so important that she be untouched? Medically how ever it is no certain way to determine virginity, the hymen can be damaged by extensive excersize, or even the use of a tampon! You just have to trust your wifes word.

Answer 8

Curious or suspicious? If you are curious, then thank God. If you are suspicious, then my sincere advice is not to get married. You will be happy to be alone. Otherwise, think of a life where you don't trust your life partner.

One more thing. Even if your partner is not trust worthy, care & love her so much, that she will comeback to you. Remember - Love has a tremendous potential to make a difference.

Answer 9

This is such an outdated practice....
You cannot know...
It just boils down to a matter of trust...
If you think they are cheating on you then you never trusted them in the first place.

Answer 10

It is difficult to tell. Especially since (at least for a woman) they can have their hymen's repaired, and for a man, there is no way to really tell.

But who cares in this day and age?