Is it bad to be a romantic these days?

Question

There is a lot of emphasis on non-emotional, totally physical relationships today, but no matter how much I try and just can't approach a woman with the attitude that she is just a sex object to be used solely for my pleasure. I wonder if this is because I am sexually immature. Should I just approach a woman as 'no big deal, just a lay' and try and not make a big deal about it until I get to know her better?

Answer 1

Of course not!!! I wish there were more men like you... I'm always fantasizing about going out with a man that is just very romantic, one who just wants to do romantic things like walking on the park at night, a good day at the beach or something like that... not just sex!!

Answer 2

Your deffinately right about how much emphasis is put on strickly sexual relationship these days. When you speak about being sexually immature I'm not exactly sure what your saying, less experienced? or just immature and you laugh at the word sex? Don't try to be one of those guys who just go out to get laid... Be who you are, if a woman doesn't like then why want to be with her in the first place. In our society we're skipping the courtship and going straight to having sex... Woman need to smarten up! Courtship is a good thing... Good luck sweetheart... just remember be yourself and act out what comes naturally don't pretend to be some sex crazed wacko looking for a good lay... and one more thing, Be Romantic, Be Romantic, Be Romantic!!!

Answer 3

It is extremely desireable and attractive for a man to be romantic instead of just seeking some wild sex. Most guys choose a woman based on how she will perform (sexually) and we girls do not like to be sterotyped by our bodies! Just because we aren't tiny and have perfect hair doesn't mean we aren't wonderful people! A relationship isn't all about sex. I think you ARE sexually mature to be wanting a romantic relationship with a woman. Sexually immature is when guys drool over big boobs and can think of nothing except sex.

You should call me. ;-)

Answer 4

I think it would depend on what you want, what you can live with, and your own personal standards. There are rules to this sex thang. If all you want is a one time thing make sure that is understood. If you want something more, a blase attitude is probably not the best attitude to show. My advice is to decide your own rules on how you think a woman should be treated by you and maintain those rules no matter what. While your at it...watch a good movie like 'Take the Lead'. Be true to who you are, maintain your own personal standards and you won't have any regrets.

Answer 5

You better not treat her like a "sex object"! She's human too! I'm a romantic - that's GOOD! the physical mentality that relationships are all about sex is NOT GOOD! be a romantic! find someone that strikes a chord! There is someone out there for you....find "your other half" (the person for you), get married and have lots of fun! :)
p.s. being "sexually immature" isn't a bad thing....sex should be saved for the honeymoon.

Answer 6

Being romantic is where it's at!

The "big deal it's just a lay" image is giving nice guys like us a bad rep these days.

FOR ALL THE WOMEN READING THIS. NICE, RESPECTFUL MEN STILL EXIST!!!

Women are not just sex objects.
Hell... they're smarter than us.

Nice guys don't finish last.

Remember this
Nice guys just wait until the time is right and when all those big headed ego filled losers get kicked to the curb with their stupid one liners, the woman that's right for you will be waiting and she will see you for what you are.

Respect, honesty, love, this is what's important for a long lasting loving relationship.

Don't rush things!

I know.

It took time, but I also found the right woman for me... we have been together for ten years, and it still feels new.

Answer 7

i love it when my bf is romantic..... i think all the girls like romantic guys

its one side in a relationship.....it makes the relationship more active and fun...... makes people feel like they are been cared by the other....

its not cuz' ur sexually immature.... its cuz' u respect her.... and who said "sex" cant be romantic..... thats one of the most romantic thing in the world, once ur with the right person, right? ;)

i personaly dont like guys who approach me as "no big deal, just a lay" because it makes me look like a "easy to get girl"

by being romantic, u can show the person that ur not taking her as a sex object... it shows respect in a way.....

even if ppl say being romantic is old fashion, i think its a great way to start.... it gives the other person to find out who ur....and how u act toward things..... it makes urself look less complicated.... cuz' when ur romantic, ur simply saying things that comes to ur mind....

now, whats "Romantic" is another thing....... it mostly depends on the individual.... i might find a person romantic, while someone else wont....

so, just see how ur girl is.... and what she think is romantic.... and HOW she's taking the relationship?[like, "is she serious?" or "is she still trying to figure you out?" ]

but....keep ur limits.... cuz' if u start being romantic all the time, it will just lose its value... and if ur in a bad mood, the otherperson might misunderstand u, cuz' u have been romantic all the time...

so, the limit is important....

but most of all, it ALL depends on the way your girl looks at it....

so, try out being romantic for a few times, and see how she reacts, that will give u a good idea whether its a good idea to be romantic with her or not....

in general.... most of the girls like romantic guys.... gives a "gentleman"-look to the person.... [plus, the girls parents will find it VERY intresting ;) ]

hope i helped..... :)

Answer 8

all i have to say is that guys should definitely be more romantic. i wish that more guys were, and they should also treat women with respect, and treat them right. i think it is really sweet when guys do things that most people just overlook, like holding open doors, and opening doors and what not. but guys should be more like that. but women should also be more romantic, because they are part of the reason for it too, because they let people just take advantage, more or less, and just go out looking for solely intimate relationships with no romance or any feelings at all. everyone should change i guess.

alright thats all...romantic is good.

Answer 9

you should keep up with the clean approch.
now yes romance aint in style these days its all about bad guys, sex, and no relationship.
you are not immature your just shilvrey, and there sould be more of men like that.
thses man boys today are just sickning, and disstasteful.
they are rude, gross, disgusting pigs, and i have no idea why girls today like these things in a guy.
they have no attention span and only know one thing. im not sexist, and i aint bashing men, or maybe i am, but there is just WAY male s**ts and w***s and they just make me sick.
a would rather a man who is curtiouse, respectful, intteligent, and have his own mind, not some manufactured boy .
this is another reason why relationships end to the pits, there is no trust coz either one cant settle down, no compromise and no honesty.
we are not sex objects, we are just as human as you, we feel like you, and we can do your jobs if not better then you.
we put you on this earth, held you in our wombs for 9 months, went through hell going through labour to deliver you boys.
tryied raising you and teaching you the proper way to treat people.
now im sorry to sound so arrogent but its true.
i just hope you are like those sick b*****ds out there.
treat you lady right, not like some dirty toy you can just pick up and rip her head off and just leave
like seriously.
you guys cant underestamate the logics of stupitity.

Answer 10

there is too much emphasis on sex today..you r a good man with a great attitude about women..please keep your respect for women!! You are rare..as for the rest of u guys who think women r just a lay..take a lesson from this guy!!