Men and Women Please Respond.Could you ever be in or have you ever been in a open sexual relationship?

Question

I am a psychologist and am currently doing some research in the area on relationships. Do you believe that a couple can have an open sexual relationship with other partners, both together or not, and still be deeply in love and committed to one another? Have you ever been or are you still in a sexually open relationship? Does sex between two or more people purely for the purpose of sexual gratification exist? Can you have a sexual relationship with some one and not grow emotionally attached? Some claim open sexual relationships last longer and are less stressful due to the “mistrust” issue 85% of relationships suffer from, while others claim you can’t have a relationship unless its monogamous. I implore you to answer honestly and openly. Share your beliefs, thoughts, ideas, and experiences alike. No “none of your business” answers please, as this is a very serious question. Thank you for your input.

Answer 1

i couldnt be only one man/ woman should be together.. not with other couples.

Answer 2

Oddly enough.. I've never ever been in a sexually exclusive relationship ever.. all mine have been open. (even the loss of my male virginity was a group thing at age 14.. 4 people LOL) There was no sneaking or cheating on my part.. everything was known up front, and the significant other had the same rights as myself, usually we did it together in fact.

I dont get into exclusive sexual relationships.. never have.. likely never will.. I dont have anything against those that wanna do that.. thats fine by me.. its just NOT for me...


I dont think open or closed relationships particularly last longer or shorter than anyother.. seems to be about the same either way , there are much more in the way of interpersonal dynamics involved than simply sexual tastes that determine if a relationship is working or not... The sex was the least of the worries in any relationship I've ever been in. (3 Long term live in ones.. one of 14 yrs one of 6 years(marriage) and one of 3 years)

Note: I have not been in any relationship for 3 years now, I just occasionally date now, and not even a lot of that and it really dosent bother me at this point.. but one of the reasons is that i am not about to get involved in a closed relationship.. i either find someone of the same opinion, or well I'll skip it other than casual dating...

and thats a 100% serious answer...

And BTW I do believe you could be a psycologist maybe.. they do have the tendancy to ask some of the most inane questions sometimes and dont usually have a really good grasp of the human condition LOL

ADDENDUM: Sex an love for me anyway have little to do with each other.. thats like saying the ability to walk and shopping are related (which they are in a way.. but not closley)

Answer 3

First question is definitely not. Love is a commitment between the couple which should not be commited to anyone else. Second question, no I have not been in any relationship with a girl what so ever, partly I think because my personality and maturity is alot different to most people my age, I am not physically attractive, I am an asexual person and also because I am not the kind of person who is open to people. Third question, yes. Sex with over two people involved in the act is known by many people as a 'three some'. Fourth question, alot of people have sex not because they feel emotionally attached to someone, but because they feel as though they need to act on their desire and satisfy their lust.

Answer 4

Personally I am not into dating, sharing or whatever people want to call it these days "open sexually" with others. I believe in having a one on one relationship. I can't see myself sharing someone I care about with another individual willingly. I couldn't trust that person anymore if he even presented me with such a proposal and would probably end the relationship because I would have doubts in the back of my mind that he is doing it behind my back. So the trust is gone already. I believe sex, making love, etc. should be between two individuals who seriously care for each other and desire only one another. Perhaps I am old fashion in my ways, but that's just the way I am and the way I feel about being sexually committed in a relationship.

Answer 5

I do not believe that a couple can have an open sexual relationship with other partners. Sex complicates a lot of things and I don't think I could be involved with someone that I knew had other sexual partners. I think that a lot of people have sexual relationships and it is possible to not grow emotionally attached ... I've heard a lot of stories about friends with benefits where one side gets extremely attached and the other person sees it just as sex.

Answer 6

I cant say other people could not make it work, but I could never be in a relationship like that, I directly link emotion and love to sex, I could not have sex with someone I do not love never have never will, I believe the greatest sexual gratification comes from the love the two people share

Answer 7

a million-Do you think that a pair could have an open sexual courting with different companions, the two mutually or no longer, and nonetheless be deeply in love and dedicated to a minimum of one yet another? sure they might in the event that they're mature sufficient to weigh all the pros and cons against this variety of realtionship and lay down limitations which contain no intercourse without risk-free practices 2-have you ever been or are you nonetheless in a sexually open courting? No by no potential been yet whilst became into unwell and my significant different mandatory to do this then i might attempt to be information as i might see it as a cutting-edge that i might desire to them for no longer being closed minded and permitting them to be their finished potential 3-Does intercourse between 2 or extra people in easy terms for the purpose of sexual gratification exist? sure and continually will some cant bypass by life without wanting everyman or lady they meet for a sexual ego improve if there is extra suitable than 2 people in touch such is quite often considered as a postitive then a unfavourable 4-are you able to've a sexual courting with some one and not strengthen emotionally related sure yet wouldnt do it its no longer the superb option to play with others thoughts

Answer 8

I started one of those with an ex many years ago. I had fallen out of love. didn't take him seriously anymore, and didn't expect him to be trust worthy either. I wasn't sleeping around, but I didn't think he wasn't. You know? (This was after I separated from my exhusband.) Over time I started dating again, I wasn't sleeping around, but I was seeing other men. (The only reason I went back the the ex for sex was because I didn't want to add notches to my bed post.) A few times the relationships with other guys turned more serious, and might have led to something physical. (I never hid the fact that I was dating, or that something like this might happen. This went on for years, btw.)

And yes, over this time he became more emotionally attached to me than he ever was before. All of a sudden he didn't want me seeing other people, but didn't seem ready for a serious relationship. After awhile, my feelings started to resurface, and I had to end things because I felt that I could never get the relationship I wanted with him. And yet he would still try to keep me from find that with someone else if I continued to see him. As well, he tried hard to keep me from leaving him. After that it only became worse and worse. He became more attached, AND more hurt. I did as well. (He has committment issues and is pretty certain that I'm looking for an engagement ring.)

OPEN with us never worked. We tried to have "an understanding" where we were still single, but not allowed to sleep with other people. I was ok with this. But the risks he would take if I was going out with other men was too much for him. BUT... I was going out with other men because he wasn't spending time with me the way I needed him to.

It's just been this never ending cycle of me trying to break away from him.

For the record, my feelings didn't start to resurface until he started to open up about his, and I started to see how serious he was. Until that time, all of my emotions were successfully blocked off, as I didn't take him seriously. However, all the time that my emotions were at bay, the sex just wasn't as good.

The longest this lasted without interruption was a year and a half. As soon as he started talking about future plans and feelings he wasn't ready to act on, I ended things (for the time being).

Answer 9

I never have been in an open relationship and i never will be but some people can do that. To me if you are deeply in love with the person you are with then you wouldnt be able to stand them being with someone else.

Answer 10

Here's why I don't believe you're actually a psychologist:

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