After several months my ex boyfriend and I started meeting again because he offered to help with something and we started just seeing each other as friends
He treats me at time attentive and at times so indifferent it is always extremely mixed and confussing to spend hours one day to then go and forget I exist
He put his hand inside his pants to scratch the side of the leg but the upper part I turned my head away he did that again another time and again I turned my head; he unbotton his pants and belt from eating too much to then fix it in front of me I told him to turn around or go to the bathroom because I see his skin He got offended but then too made fun of me for saying is not respecting my home or me he said what is there to respect; to him is not bad to show his skin or fix his belt but we had not dated for over almost a year and a half; he never did that before He does not love me or wants to really have me in his life as a person I think why do it ?
2007-02-03 09:47:39 · 10 answers · asked by freedom 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hello alea_10,
It sounds like the two of you aren't very compatible with each other. You aren't exactly clear as to what he's helping you with, but both of you are sort of using it as an excuse to hang out together.
It sounds like you need to call it quits with this relationship and find someone who will treat you better, or at least, do things that you appreciate a little more. Best of luck to you.
--Rick
2007-02-03 10:02:55 · answer #1 · answered by rickrudge 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...obviously this guy has no manners and respect for you and what you do. This guy you're talking about doesn't even know what he's talking about. I think he's just trying to look for some kind of attention. Perhaps he's acting this way because he's inexperienced or he just doesn't have people skills. I think it's both. If he loved you...that would have been the last thing he would have done or not at all.
2007-02-03 09:55:21 · answer #2 · answered by lost_inblue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a real "nice" guy...The answer to this question would be more clear if we knew the nature of your break up...Without knowing the details I'd have to say he doesn't really respect you very much...Whether you guys should continue to hang out is kind of up to you...I find if people in my life become aggrivating, I cut them loose when they won't behave themselves.
Of course the SMART thing to do would be to have this conversation with him...Find out what HE'S thinking...I'm sure there's a reasonable explaination for his behavior...If not, maybe you guys should spend some time apart...If you can't talk straight with your "friends", who can you talk to?
2007-02-03 09:59:17 · answer #3 · answered by Jefferson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, unfortunately guys scratch themselves and adjust their belts.It is just what we do. But on the other hand he should be more respectful of your wishes and his attention problem sounds bad. I myself have bipolar disorder and that kinda sounds like how I was towards my wife to be until I got help with it but it could be anything. I suggest trying some counciling together and seperately to try to find just where the problem lies.
2007-02-03 09:58:22 · answer #4 · answered by machairus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from this guy... It's obvious he want you back, but is too afraid to admit it , possibly because of rejection. You broke up before, for a reason... get him out of your life, and keep him out! Good Luck!
2007-02-03 09:58:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is being disrespectful to you. If he is going to act like that then you shouldn't have him around. That is just not cool. Whenever I have to adjust I make a point not to do it right in front of someone. That is something that everybody around doesn't need or want to see. Let him know if he doesn't quit disrespecting you then he is not going to be welcome to come around.
2007-02-03 09:56:12 · answer #6 · answered by chugyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know he is a loser then get a life with a winner an be happy. You have to be honest wit yourself an go get what you want.
2007-02-03 09:53:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is obviously comfortable in your presence, why is it an issue?
2007-02-03 09:52:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he dosn,t respect you, you should find a nother guy that repects you.
2007-02-03 09:52:41 · answer #9 · answered by i,m here if you need to talk. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, I really don't understand what you're trying to ask.....
2007-02-03 09:51:49 · answer #10 · answered by Tellus A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋