Ok, about 7 months ago, I went out with a boy after he lost his girlfriend. We were happy, he promised me forever. Then a few months later his girlfriend came back, and he left me without much thought. A went with a new boy, who loves me to death, and I do love him too. During this though I was very upset from losing the last guy, my new boyfriends been here every night to help me through it, always supportive always caring and forgiving. I finally got over the last guy. Then he lost his girlfriend again, and he wants to get back with me. And I realised I still love him very much, yet I dont trust him with my heart. The new guy I'm with knows all this, and is supporting me through it, but I'm not sure what to do. I love the one who left me more, but I also love my new boyfriend, and we have trust honesty we rarely fight and when we do we always make up fast. I know I have something with him, but temptation makes me yearn for the boy who hurt me. Who even said he didnt love me.
2007-02-03 09:44:09 · 15 answers · asked by Freedomfighter 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The last guy told me he loved me. I wanna believe him
2007-02-03 14:20:45 · update #1
Why would you do exactly what your old boyfriend did to you and ditch the good person in your life. Especially when you profess that you love the boy you are with now.
You will always just be the backstop in the game, the person who is there to pick up the pieces when things turn shitty in your ex's life.
Do yourself a favour and stick with the nice guy you are with now.
2007-02-03 09:49:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please Please don't go back to the first boyfriend. What will happen if he decide to go back to his old girlfriend again? How will you feel? Even more hurt I am sure. You have found someone who is very supportive of your needs and from what you say he seem to be a very nice person. He seem very caring and honest. Nothing like the first guy. You have to be strong and not let your emotions blind you. If the first guy really loved you then he never would have went back to his old girlfriend. Don't risk losing the nice guy you have now for the other guy who just dumped you. Sometime it is hard to listen to reasoning when your heart is telling you something different. But you are smart and I am sure you don't want a repeat of being dumped or crushed again by the first guy. The decision is yours to make but think about what you will be losing if you left the guy you are with now. Do you think he will just wait around for you to come back to him if you decide to leave? Consider his feelings in this as well. If you need some time alone to think about the situation then be honest with your new boyfriend. But I hope you will not make the same mistake twice. Good luck.
2007-02-03 17:55:47 · answer #2 · answered by Denese 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's not your fault that he left you you need to let him go. Holding on to the past can affect you negatively in the future. It seems like you have a great boyfriend now, so forget the other one. The other one left you for a girl he said he was over, now that she's left him again he wants you back, just think what would happen if she came back again. Are you willing to let yourself get hurt again because of a boy? you have a great boyfriend on your arm he's will to stay beside you despite the fact that you are thinking about leaving him for someone who broke your heart, that is a true boyfriend who will always be there.
2007-02-03 17:52:44 · answer #3 · answered by Daniela15 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he didn't love u and still doesn't, he is just weak and doesn't want to be alone, with no one. your a fool to ever go back with him, u don't have to fall for the temptation, as we all have choices don't we. what he did to u showed his true character, why would u want to go back with him? and be cheated on and hurt again all over again. what happens if u take him back and let the other one go and the old girlfriend comes back again? if u believe u can deal with the hurt than do it, but the hurt will be much worse the second time around as it was the first. if u have someone good now, be thankful for what u do have, and don't bring trouble on yourself, the past should remain in the past, forget him or suffer the consequences of what happens.
2007-02-03 17:52:57 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl you must be kidding how can you love a person who left you without much thought. he doesn't care about you he didn't put your feelings first before he left you and it's very much possible that he'll do the same when he finds another girl. if you want to be heartbroken again by him then go back but if you don't want to suffer then stay with the guy you're with right now. he just wants to use you and when he's finished he'll surely move on. it's up to you but you'll probably never find another guy who is as good as the one you're dating right now. hope you make the right decision
2007-02-03 18:04:19 · answer #5 · answered by sasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes your ego will wonder why the first guy didn't love you and you want to win him, however, there is a guy that you get along with more that you love and loves you back. If you are willing to get dumped again and not to trust your bf, then sure go for the first guy, but my gut tells me to stick it out with your current guy. He loves you and helps you through the good times and bad.
2007-02-03 17:47:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't love you. He seeks attention. He needs a girl by his side. You do not need him. The best advice is to step back from both of them and to get away, do you really love them? Would you die for them? If you must eb with someone then I suggest the guy you are currently with, he understands what you are going throught an dis willing to put up with your problems and wants to help in any way possible!
2007-02-03 18:01:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would have to be very immature to go back with your old boyfriend. I believe what you felt when the two of you parted was more a feeling of rejection then love. Could I be right ??
I know from experience that rejection is cold and it hurts bad.
No one wants to be rejected, MALE or FEMALE~~~~~
2007-02-03 17:57:20 · answer #8 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget the old boyfriend. A leopard does't change its spots. Stick with your new guy as he sounds like a good one. You old boyfriend will probably leave you again for the next interesting girl that walks past.
2007-02-03 17:50:26 · answer #9 · answered by machairus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick with the good guy...this is why guys made up the saying "nice guys finish last". Don't look for drama in your relationships...appreciate the one that sticks with you and doesn't come crawling back for a bootie call everytime he gets dumped.
2007-02-03 17:48:19 · answer #10 · answered by DebChick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋