i'm 13 and people have been asking me alot so i want to know when is a good time to lose my virginity? should i lose it now
2007-02-03 09:43:42 · 22 answers · asked by lillexis_01 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
No, you shouldn't.. Not only because you ae 13, but also because you're on yahoo answers asking about it. If you were rady, you wouldn't have to ask anyone, you would know it. Some people are ready at 13, to deal with the consequences. Not rare, and people may give thema weird look, but some just are and they do it and they don't regret and no it was the right time. For you, it isn't. it'll be when you are 100% sure it is the right time. That you won't have to ask anyone. That you feel absolutely ready to deal with physical and emotional consequences of sex. That may happen in a month, a year, 5 years, only time will tell. Just don't give in to pressure, honey! Do it for you, when you are ready, don't do it because someone else says you should!
2007-02-03 09:59:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
the same thing happened to me . trust me from experience that you want to wait. wait as long as you can.(marriage if possible!) if you do something right now you'll definately regret it next week and everyone will know anyways. You dont want to be "that girl" and thats who you'll be. You need to wait untill you dont need to ask yourself if it is a good idea. Thats when you'll know. You should have a really good boyfriend that loves you and you've been with for awhile. i knows this sounds cliche but if hes not willing to wait, then you should wait for a new boyfriend. Guys are supposed to cater to you , not the other way around. Also you should think about babies. You need to think "Am I old enough to have a baby?" if not, then you're still to young to have sex. i say this because my friend maria had a baby at 13. Can you see yourself in college with a 7 year old? She cant get a new boyfriend because of that. Middle School, High school and College is hard to do with a baby. Sex is fun but the consiquences are not sweetie. I've been there and done that. I would'nt wish it on my enemies. Hope this helps.
josci
2007-02-03 09:59:23 · answer #2 · answered by jobaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no perfect age to lose your virginity, but 13 is illegal, first of all. I'm not aware of any country where you can legally have sex that young.
Sex is not something to take lightly. Deciding to lose your virginity is a big step towards adulthood, and, even though everyone is different at every age, you're probably not anywhere near old enough.
You also have to realize that there is no birth control method that is %100 effective once you have sex. Condoms, pills, patches, and shots can all fail. Even having tubal ligation or a vasectomy can still fail in some cases.
I cannot make your decision for you, but I would seriously consider waiting. You would be putting yourself in a very sticky situation. You open yourself up for a world of problems - pregnancy, STD's, and emotional distress are a few things that can happen as a result of sexual activity.
You cannot turn back once you've done it. I know plenty of people who wish they hadn't had sex so young, but I don't know anyone who regrets waiting.
2007-02-03 09:53:13 · answer #3 · answered by Smurfy Keeps Going and Going 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You shouldn't base your decision on when to loose your virginity on your age. You should ask yourself the following questions before loosing your virginity:
1. Do I want to loose my virginity?
2. Am I married or at least in a committed relationship with some one I want to spend the rest of my life with?
3. Am I ready to be a parent?
4. Is the person I am thinking about having sex with ready to be a parent?
5. Should I use birth control and if so what kind?
6. Am I being pressured into having sex? If so by who, my friends my boyfriend or my peers?
7. Am I emotionally ready for sex and the complications that it can bring to a relationship?
8. Do I know my partners motives behind wanting sex?
9. Do I love the person I am thinking about having sex with?
10. How will my having sex affect my parents and will they be supportive of me having sex?
11. Will having sex help me in school?
12. Does God want me to have sex?
13. If I have sex before I am married will it affect my future spouse?
These aren't in order of importance and there are many more questions you should ask yourself as well. But until you can answer all of these questions I would definitely not have sex. 13 is pretty young to confidently answer most of those questions. Please put a lot of thought into this because this isn't a decision you get to make twice and it will affect you for the rest of your life.
2007-02-03 09:59:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you have to ask other people if you are ready to have sex then you are OBVIOUSLY not ready to be having sex.
Loosing your virginity is a personal choice that is only up to you. When you are TRULY ready you will have no doubt about it at all.
I do believe that 13 is too young to have sex. If you are going to engage in the behaviour you should be sure that you are ready for any consequences that will come along with the act. (pregnancy or STD) not to mention the emotional impact that having sex will have on you.
It is not something you should just do because people are doing it or asking you to do it.
2007-02-03 10:59:32 · answer #5 · answered by baby_mommy_d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost mine when i was 13 cuz everyone was doing it and all the pressure of my boyfriend. I regret it sooo much. I wish i would of waited till i got married or at least till i was 18. I think once your in a relationship for more than a year and you love someone allot and are able to take responsibility for a baby if you should get pregnant. But i pray you don't have sex this younge you will regret it and it's not worth it. I thought it would be special and everything but it wasn't and i regreted it even though i loved my boyfriend. It just wasn't right. and your virginity is something very special a woman can give. that's why after i lost mine i didn't have sex till i was 18 to the guy im about to marry now. im 19 now. and if you chose to use protection. Just think about it
2007-02-03 09:56:11 · answer #6 · answered by everlasting_matchstick 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Only if you're prepared to become a parent, never sleep again, never shop for yourself, never listen to music or watch what you want on tv. Never finish school or go to college, become a fast food manager for the rest of you life and go home smelling like KFC everynight and watch as you son/dtr makes the same mistakes as you did, then...raise your grandchildren. In other words NO! Even though you feel mature, your brain has not yet emotionally matured and therefore cannot handle a sexual relationship. It can be very damaging and have long term effects on you.
2007-02-03 09:52:27 · answer #7 · answered by Jessica B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was 14 and now I that I think about it, I wasnt really ready. After my first time, I didnt have sex again for over 2 years. Dont do it until you are ready, and mature enough to deal with consequences if something goes bad.
2007-02-03 10:58:39 · answer #8 · answered by newbie_inbc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should not "lose it now." You shouldn't "lose" anything as special as virginity. You should be GIVING it to some one you love. You have your whole life ahead of you. And when you have sex early, you're giving away pieces of your heart that your spouse should get, not some "hott" 13-year-old kid.
2007-02-03 09:48:36 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think when you are ready to have a baby and are financially secure. Not to mention emotionally ready.
There are some 20-30's who shouldn't be having sex.
Also I think sex ed is important you need to know how to avoid pregnancy.
2007-02-03 09:49:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋