part 2 to my should i forgive her?

Question

i asked should i forgive my mother. i tried to forgive her i tried talking to i tried having a relationship with her but it didn't work she'll say i understand or half the time when i try to tell her how i feel she don't talk or want to hear it i wonder why.

Answer 1

Yes forgiveness is the only way - but it is not about her - it is about you. You will benefit from forgiving. It is a hard thing to do though. It is a process. One step at a time.

The reason to forgive - is firstly because God tells us to - in the Bible it clearly states for us to forgive as God has forgiven us (of all we do wrong). But God made this rule for our benefit. When we forgive we get peace in our heart. We feel better. Feeling upset at someone is a big difference to when we let go of our anger/annoyance etc.

How to forgive - is not about telling the person. It is about you in your heart saying "I forgive. I am not perfect either. I make mistakes. There is a reason why my mother did these things (whether she in incompetent as a mother, how she was raised, mental health issues, whatever) so for my own peace I am letting go. I know my mother loves me because ........(think of a time when she showed you she does love you) and i am going to concentrate on this and not on the negative things she has done"

In any relationship the best way to make things better is not to try to get anything out of it - but to see what you can do for that person or what you can give to the relationship. If you be a better person by behaving the way you would like her to - then you will feel proud of yourself and will show your mother the right way to behave.

Unconditional love. Its about loving someone even if you dont get anything out of it.

I know all these things are hard to do. It is a lot easier to say than to do - but all we can do is try the best we can. And to say sorry anything we have done.

I wish you all the best. I have had to learn these lessons too and am still learning. It is hard to do but well worth it. You feel so much better in the end.

:)

Answer 2

First, you have to realize your mother is who she is. If she didn't change when you were a teen and really needed a mom, she's not likely to change now. Don't expect her to understand how you feel, because she won't.
So, don't depend on her. Take care of yourself. Do your own thinking about what kind of family you want to have when you marry and create your own family. Get the support you need from friends or wherever you can get it. Maybe at a church, maybe elsewhere.
Now, you can forgive your mother because it doesn't do you any good to carry around this anger and regret. If there is anything good in your relationship with your mother, anything you can enjoy now, go ahead and see her, but realize that this is limited. It is up to you. Keep in touch with her now and then, if she is not destructive to you or you family once you have one.
Go on and create a happy life.

Answer 3

mom's r confusin' shell come 2 u if shes rede 4 a mothr doter relationship

Answer 4

Shes not listening is there someone in the family you can go too,maybe they can help the situation

Answer 5

WELL IF THIS THIS IS YOUR "PART 2", THEN YOU'RE GETTING PRETTY ANNOYING, AND MAYBE YOUR MOM THINKS YOU'RE PRETTY ANNOYING, TOO