i made plans on monday for a blind date with this girl tonight. then today she told me her friends were going to be with us..isn't that going to be awkward? i'm not going to bring my friends bc i'm not sure if she's fat/ugly/dorky. what would you do? would you go or tell her to drop her friends for our first date? that's not too much to ask is it? hanging out with her friends the second time we meet up would be fine..but not the first! am i right?? thanks.
2007-02-03 09:32:31 · 7 answers · asked by Jay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we've talked on the phone so she knows i'm not crazy or whatever. and she's gone out alone on first dates with other guys so what's the big deal? bringing her friends is just going to put pressure on both of us..especially me. i'd feel like i'm being judged or something the whole time. we're going to a public place too so she has nothing to be worried about. i dont understand her logic on this one..she's just thinking about herself i guess.
2007-02-03 09:48:41 · update #1
To be honest with you, I find it kind of strange. She might be worried about security, but my rule of thumb has always been I drive myself to blind dates, it's a VERY public place, and I make sure my friends are aware of where I am and that I will call if I feel uncomfortable and need someone to come around. My cell phone is on, and they call and check up on me during the evening. She may not feel that comfortable and confident, though. You didn't mention how the two of you met or how long you've been talking to one another. This may be part of the reason she wants to bring friends and she may be too embarassed to say that to you.
I'd say respect her feelings, let her bring her friends, but feel free to bring a friend along, as well. This way things are a bit more balanced, and it isn't just you feeling as if you are being judged by her and a panel of her friends. You may find, too, that if she's comfortable, her friends will excuse themselves early, leaving the two of you alone to continue your date.
Try not to see it as a negative and see it as a positive. She's looking out for herself, and if she doesn't, who will? Wouldn't you rather end up with a smart woman than someone who is too ditzy to consider her own safety? Besides, why ruin something that just might end up being a good relationship over a few friends coming along?
Good luck on your date! I hope you end up having a great time!
2007-02-03 10:04:31 · answer #1 · answered by Denise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a first date and a blind one at that.. for all they know you could be a serial killer.. Under the circumstances.. i dont think its a big deal... really
Now the "friends" are definatily paying thier own way .. my date wasnt with them...
If it really bothered me (and it might depending on my mood that day, I could go either way on this one) I'd just simply cancel the date.. and find a new one...
2007-02-03 09:44:07 · answer #2 · answered by darchangel_3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is taking care of herself properly. These days it's not a good idea to go out alone to meet a man. My suggestion would be to meet her with her friends and possibly go out with her again in the future alone.
2007-02-03 09:42:37 · answer #3 · answered by rubyred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would tell her how you feel.. when i went on a blind date i thought it would be better to have friends because it makes it less stressful since you to dont know eachother you might want to bring one friend who cares if she fat/ ugly or what ever no one said you had to date her.. this date is like to see if you like her.. she sould be able to bring friends...
2007-02-03 09:42:47 · answer #4 · answered by [T][A][V][I][A] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. If I dated someone like that, i ought to really sense free that I had dodged a bullet and not in any respect gotten very in touch with them. i'd not loan them funds and that i ought to overlook about destiny telephone calls.
2016-11-02 05:53:46 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds correct. Maybe she's bring her friends just to be safe u know. But just tell her how u feel
2007-02-03 09:36:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She might be worried about security. I think you are wrong on this one man. Sorry.
2007-02-03 09:37:34 · answer #7 · answered by jax0817 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋