I've been dating this guy for 6 months and he treats me really good. But I notice he doesn't treat his sister very good or nice sometimes and it kinda bugs me...like he'll say things about her weight or not do small favors for her when she asks. Do you think this is any indication of how he might treat me if I married him??
2007-02-03 09:31:20 · 13 answers · asked by DebChick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes it is and I would talk to him about how he treats her and your valid concerns.
2007-02-03 10:38:11 · answer #1 · answered by DESTINY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might treat you nice now but things can always change when the relationship gets further along. It is a definite indication of something the way he treats his sister. It does not make him a nice person at all. And everybody deserves to be with somebody nice.
2007-02-03 09:46:43 · answer #2 · answered by Wasabi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I read your question my heart dropped. In my version of reality and through experience I would consider this a red flag. I see it like this...if you have personal standards, lines you don't cross because it would be lowering yourself to someone you don't want to be, then you don't cross them for anyone. No matter what you may think about them personally. You are who you are and no one can dictate your behavior with how they act toward or around you. You make your own decisions about your actions. If you don't like someone or have lost respect for them then deal with it and tell them. Or shut up and live with it in the case of relatives you may not be willing to confront. Making someone feel like second class and not worth your precious time is degrading and cruel. And they know you are doing it. It becomes obvious that you do not maintain your own personal beliefs and shows that you believe only in showing manners when it gets you somewhere or so on. It seems very...two-faced but not in an obvious way. Does this person know what they are doing? Have you spoken to them about your observations? As far as I am concerned this is a window to possible future events.
Good luck.
2007-02-03 09:58:00 · answer #3 · answered by humorthekeytosanity 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no that's a brother for you. try telling him in a nice way that that was mean. or you know she probably gets that from her friends and so she eats more to help her feelings. let him know that weight issues are normally from emotions not just food. just small little hints when he does that. and the good thing is he allows her to do those little things so she will get up. when catered to it can leave her to gain more weight.so that is not bad. Also if you see any change to you then you will know what he is really like.
2007-02-03 09:39:20 · answer #4 · answered by really???? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I believe this is how he could treat you "after the honeymoon". Keep an eye on how he treats his mother, too. I remember a saying that went Watch how the man treats his mother and that will show you how he might treat you.
2016-05-24 00:24:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all the time, maybe they had a bad relationship during their childhood years. Talk to him about it, ask him why he treat his sister the way he does.
2007-02-03 09:34:59 · answer #6 · answered by GerMel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely.
2007-02-03 10:03:36 · answer #7 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No bc you act diff towards your family than you would a spouse plus sis and bros don't get along in the first place.
2007-02-03 09:34:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep...and also how he treats his mom too is a good indiator of how he'll treat you in the long run.
2007-02-03 09:45:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No that's stupid why are people always trying to justify the things in their relationship with stupid things like that. It all depends on the guy.
2007-02-03 09:43:41 · answer #10 · answered by melyssa star 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋