Why is it that women feel compelled to snoop and dig for dirt on their b/f's or husbands when the relationship is going well. It seems that as soon as women fall in love they through away their intuition and give in to "paranoia". I know that this doesn't apply to all women, but for most once they fall in love logic is tossed out of the window. Why?
2007-02-03 09:28:25 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Am a woman (European) and not very familiar with this cultural thing, but have found that a lot of women I speak with here in the us do not trust because often lack of communication. Independance is key to a successful relationship and trust is a ley component of that.
2007-02-03 09:34:36 · answer #1 · answered by natioushka 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I never snoop and dig. I think people who do this have a low self esteem or trust issue. If you have to snoop and dig ladies and gentlemen, its time to get out of that relationship!
I have only been with the tow husbands I have had. My ex had the audacity to monitor me and invade my privacy.
With all the unnecessary snooping on me, he left his home made sex video in the VCR! What a hypocrite! I did not look for this, but I did ask God what I was doing wrong for him to treat me the way he was treating me. God does have a sense of humor -I would say.
Now, I am divorced from him, he probably still has some remote monitoring of my e-mail.
If those women are doing that to you, you need to run or check them out a little closer! I hope this answers your question!
2007-02-03 09:41:22 · answer #2 · answered by Arene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are she has been deceived before and has very little faith in relationships.
The reason it doesnt happen immediately, is because you are both enveloped in the excitement of the unknown. Over time, you learn most everything about her and the excitement fades. She feels compelled to see if you are staying true to her, or if you are looking for that excitement of the unknown again.
The more she doesnt find, the more she feels at ease that she can trust you. If you care about her, just reassure her that she is who you want. Do not hide anything from her. Talk to her openly and never ever lie to her. She will listen to every word and analyze it if she has been betrayed before.
She simply needs reassureance and once she feels comfortable, you will have one of the most loyal companions you have ever known. Just cut her some slack and try to be supportive. Be completely open. Thats what will allow her to put her guard down.
Good luck to you.
2007-02-03 09:40:39 · answer #3 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the woman has been hurt by infidelity in a previous relationship, they are more likely to snoop. I think some men do this too.
2007-02-03 09:31:52 · answer #4 · answered by Monica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never snooped through my husband's things or e-mail. I think some women just want the reassurance of their man not straying. (so many do)
2007-02-03 09:31:49 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the reason some women snoop is based on their own insecurities, besides if you've got nothing to hide, what do you have to be worried about ?
2007-02-03 09:31:41 · answer #6 · answered by mom3shell 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because in te world today we are all given the messege that everything is too good to be true. That if everything is fine its because you haven't found the dirt yet. Its just the impression that we've been given. Nothing can be as good as we want/hope it to be. LIke i said the only thing we are ever told is that it must be too good to be true
2007-02-03 09:32:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like problems of jealousy and insecurity. Maybe they are afraid they care about your so much that they'll get crushed if anything is going on.
2007-02-03 09:34:19 · answer #8 · answered by DebChick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a jealous woman
2007-02-03 09:31:17 · answer #9 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋