i was wondering shouldi forgive my mother i have not lived with her since i was 14 we never got along. we always aurged and fight i mean relly fight.my point is should i forgive her for always acting like she didn't have a daughter she treted me like i wasn't her chid. should i forgive her for always choosing her b/f over me putting me out the house because of him,putting me out there to be a bad child when i wasn't. how many think i should how many think i shouldn't. i'm now 19 i'll be 20 next month.
2007-02-03 09:19:01 · 16 answers · asked by baby 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Girl,
The best revenge is a good life. Forgive her and move on. Believe me she knows what she did and if you act up by treating her like wise she will justify in her mind that she did the right thing when you were 14.
Do not give her that chance!
God will take care of the rest.
Remember no weapon formed against you shall prosper!
You are 19 going on 20 and that is something to be proud of that you made it this far. A good life is the best revenge against hat wrong you have suffered and your mother can not even take credit for it-ha-ha -ha!
2007-02-03 09:29:45 · answer #1 · answered by Arene 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well this is a really hard situation. But you should give your mom a chance and a lesson. Forgive her cuz she's your mom and a lot of times mothers make mistakes, but keep in mind that no one is perfect and we all learn from our mistakes. One day she'll realized that she doesn't have you any more and she'll regreat for what she did. But she's your mother and everyone in this world deserves a second chance. Make her feel loved, let her know how much she hurt you deep in your heart, but tell her that you also need her.Tell her that you will forgive her, but also tell her she has to help you to forget what she did by loving you and giving you all that time she didn't give you before. That's defenetely going to make you two get closer. A daughter always needs her mom no matter how bad this mom is. And trust me after you forgive her, you'll feel much better emotionally. And that will make you feel good about yourself. Good Luck!!!
2007-02-03 17:35:10 · answer #2 · answered by Jabric 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say forgive but do not forget. you have a right to feel the way you do towards your mom. she treated you like crap. she should not have picked her boyfriend over you. give it some time though, this is going to have to slowly heal itsself. i'm sorry that your mom was not there for you. you can learn from your mom's mistakes though. since you have been through this and know the consequences of doing things like this, you will be able to not make this mistake with your children. you will always know to pick them over any boyfriend or husband that you have. you will also have the knowledge and wisdom to give your kids something that you never really had. a mom. that means more to a kid than anything else in the world. just remember to continue to be the great person that you are. hang in there, things will improve. just take it one day at a time. that is all anyone can do. hope this helps. good luck.
2007-02-03 21:34:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a terrible situation, and I hope all the best for you in the future. You MUST forgive her. Do this for your own benefit. Holding bad feelings, anger, hostility, bitterness will only hurt yourself. Whether or not she receives the extended forgivness you offered doesn't matter. You are free and clear; she is in God's hands now. The only way your relationship could possibly be mended is to forgive. Nothing will change--possibly get worse--if you do not do this.
2007-02-03 17:25:24 · answer #4 · answered by fhfan731 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is that forgiveness is just as much a gift to yourself as it is to your mother. If you are feeling emotional turmoil b/c of the past, forgiving your mother might allow you to move on. You don't always have to view it as something beneficial to the other person. You should also look at what that forgiveness will do for you. In other words, maybe she doesn't deserve it...but do you?
2007-02-03 17:26:09 · answer #5 · answered by Jessica B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For your own piece of mind you ought to forgive your mother. That way you will be at peace when she passes away. People who never have chance to right the wrongs among people before they pass away have an extremely difficult time not feeling guilty for years afterward.
2007-02-03 17:31:16 · answer #6 · answered by rubyred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unless your mother has dramatically changed why are you going back to the same old. Do you think she has grown a conscience, not likely as you are the one asking the question, so if you expect her to be any different now you will be wrong, and you know what she is like, so now you have a choice, and a new position to look at it from
2007-02-03 17:40:22 · answer #7 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive her. Not because she deserves it but because it will set you free. Holding on to your unforgiveness just makes you bitter and angry. If you choose to forgive, then you will be happier and more at peace with yourself.
I'm sorry that she was such a bad mother to you.
2007-02-03 17:23:35 · answer #8 · answered by Thia R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends.If you want a relationship with your mother then yes by all means forgive her and move on,If you don't It really isnt going to matter
2007-02-03 17:28:23 · answer #9 · answered by Patrick P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should give it some time. You still sound angry. Just please don't let your anger at your mom affect your future relationships. You know what she did to you was wrong, so learn from it, don't repeat it.
I say no, don't forgive her yet. But prove to her that yuo can do well and survive without her love. Do it for yourself. Make yourself proud.
2007-02-03 17:24:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋