I just turned 30 and I've been with mid 20 guys. Is that too many? I'm finding my number is much higher then guys I'm meeting or are they lying and I shoudl start too
2007-02-03 09:18:37 · 6 answers · asked by dab1121 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Personally, I don't think you have to answer such a question. Why would a guy even want to know? I know I would never ask a guy a question like that. TMI! That's PERSONAL.I wouldn't suggest becoming defensive, but you should certainly ask why they want to know. Your past doesn't have that much to do with the person with you presently.
I don't think that's "too many" considering you're 30. Some of us have had long term relationships, and thus never had any room for more than a couple of partners. Others of us have had many short lived relationships... fell into immediate "puppy love", only to find the relationship over and a new man in our lives before we knew it. And of course, some of us have made a few "mistakes" in our younger years.
Whatever the case may be, there are all sorts of reasons people have different numbers of partners. So, you shouldn't let anyone make you feel bad because of the number of guys you've slept with. Some people have only had 2 partners by age 30 because they have only mutually connected with two people. Either they had two long term relationships, or shorter ones with no other serious prospects in the time between.
It varies. It's certainly nothing to beat yourself up about...
2007-02-03 09:53:21 · answer #1 · answered by Carmen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't feel bad with how many people you have had sex with. They were you choices, they are in the past, and there is a certain degree of adventure everyone must go through personally. I would say if you have had sex with 20+ guys you have tested the field and are more likely to settle down, that is a good thing to someone else who would want to settle down.
Also I say this as a guy, but most guys won't want to marry someone who won't have sex with them. If they do you run some risks:
1) they are marrying you just to have sex with you, which is even worse then just dating someone who wants sex.
2) you run the risk of not being sexually compatible with someone, which could lead to divorce or cheating.
3) The car analogy (which most women hate) You don't buy the car before you test drive it.
If it was your personal choice to have sex with the people you have had sex with, that is fine. There is no number that is to much. It shouldn't have any effect on future relationships.
2007-02-03 17:34:44 · answer #2 · answered by yo5ty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's A LOT! Respect yourself, you don't have to have sex with a guy to have a good relationship. I'm getting married and have only ever had sex with the guy I'm getting married to. And most likely, the men aren't lying to you, your number is just rather high!
2007-02-03 17:24:58 · answer #3 · answered by JoAnn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be able to count the number of sex partners on 1 hand.
2007-02-03 17:59:01 · answer #4 · answered by hubasket 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is ur business and ur body so its ur choice. I don't think it is necessary to tell anyone. I don't know my wife's number and my wife does not know mine. She suspects my number is pretty high and I think hers is low. Yet we have never even mentioned it regarding frequency or quality of prior partners. I could care less about someone she used to sleep with. Cause she sleeps with me exclusively now.
2007-02-03 18:49:00 · answer #5 · answered by toledogolf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How many men have you infected? How much do you charge for your services
2007-02-03 17:23:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋