My ex-girlfriend calls me about once a week(which i know isn't that normal to begin with) and she will say nothing. She will call, all she will say is hello and respond if i ask her if she is still on the phone. Any other question i try to ask her, i will either get a meaningless response or just no response. Such as, I will ask her what she is up to and she will either say "i don't know", then nothing else or just flat out nothing. If i don't say anything, then there is just dead silence.
Is this something that i should really have to deal with?
2007-02-03 09:10:14 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There really is no *normal* for situations like this. You don't mention who broke off the relationship, but it sounds like you were. She is probably hurting and just wants to hear your voice and feel any type of connection. Do you have caller id? If so, perhaps it's best to leave these calls unanswered.
2007-02-03 09:13:50 · answer #1 · answered by Liza 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This really isn't normal. I can't really say why she is calling you, but if you don't wish to sit and listen to silence, the best thing you can do is be honest with her. Ask her why she keeps calling you and saying nothing. If she doesn't have a reason, or if she doesn't answer, then tell her that you would prefer she not call you anymore if she's not going to actually have a conversation with you. If she still doesn't respond, then tell her you're hanging up and that you won't take her calls anymore, and do it. You have to follow through. If you don't have caller ID, then get yourself a cheap answering machine and screen your calls. Since this has obviously been going on for awhile, she probably thinks you find it to be acceptable. Unless you tell her otherwise, she's just going to keep doing it, and if the relationship is over, she needs to let you go and move on with her life.
2007-02-03 17:38:49 · answer #2 · answered by Denise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask her if she's got something to say if not you're gonna hang up. She's probably trying to hang on to the relationship that isn't there anymore. Do you want her calling? if not tell her that you need your space and to stop calling for a while, maybe she'll get the hint. You guys are broken up for a reason right? You don't have to deal with her any more unless you want to.
2007-02-03 17:21:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is having a problem letting go. Which is not your proble, But enough is enough. I would either NOT answer the phone anymore, or ask her exactly why she is calling, and if she says "I don't know" than tell her to lose the number if she can't talk. Period...end of story!
2007-02-03 17:16:10 · answer #4 · answered by sue d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah its fairly normal for an ex to be in touch reguarly if you broke up amicably and you havent both moved on. But this does sound strange. You need to talk to her, not on the phone and ask her what is up.
Theres one of three things here. She wants you back, Shes playing games or there is something wrong.
Talk to her. Or if you no longer care then tell her not to call. But not harsh in case shes suicidal or something.
2007-02-03 17:14:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might well be suffering from depression or Bipolar too. Just because shes "not normal" or a bunch of anybodys tell you shes a drop kick, remember why you went out with her in the first place and try to help her when you can. Also tell her how you feel when she acts in similar ways.
2007-02-03 17:20:46 · answer #6 · answered by Sonic Mirror 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is for sure NOT normal. You need to sit this girl down and ask her why shes acting like this. If she doesn't stop just ignore her calls she will eventually get the point.
2007-02-03 17:13:47 · answer #7 · answered by Waythere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something that I have actually had happen to me.
It means that she is thinking about you but is not ready or willing to talk to you about it. If it becomes too much then just tell her that unless she is willing to talk to you in person not to call anymore...
What she is doing is unhealthy and not helping her or you.
This is of course if you want to continue a relationship with her otherwise tell her not to call anymore and suggest she get professional help. No one needs to put up with childish behavior it's as bad as calling and hanging up.
2007-02-03 17:19:36 · answer #8 · answered by RJ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like she is trying to keep tabs on you, I would say she def isn't over you and by the sounds of it isn't going to be any time soon. I would ask her y she calls, but i would see if she will meet you so you can ask her to her face.But i think it might be a control thing.
2007-02-03 17:15:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not. It sounds like she does not have any true interest in you. I would suggest having a serious talk with her, tell her how you feel and let her know if she doesn't change then it's over. Find someone who has interest and enjoys a good conversation
2007-02-03 17:13:37 · answer #10 · answered by HappyCat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋