I've got this male friend that i've known since last may that wants to get together but all he wants to do is have sex when i see him, how can i let him know that i want to do other things then just have sex and have my 1 1/2 yr old involved, Help me out please.
2007-02-03 09:08:50 · 26 answers · asked by tommi_ghurl_2006 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Look, if you don't respect yourself, then no one else is going to either. Tell the guy to get lost and read a book. You are caught in a cycle of abuse from men, they use you because you fear loneliness, but you are not alone if you bring God into your life. Patience will reap rewards, remove all negativity from your life and wait for a good man. Beware of vanity, it will destroy you.
2007-02-03 09:16:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Things are never as easy as they seem but if you don't want to have sex with him just say no to sex and if he walks then you know you are better off without him. On the other hand, if you say no sex and he sticks around then you can take the intiative to plan something for you, him and your child to do together. Keep in mind you have to be balanced so also ask him what he would like to do and not always plan everything all the time. Your child can't always come along because sometimes he would like to spend time with you and only so be flexible. Don't have sex with him if you don't want to.
2007-02-03 09:21:15 · answer #2 · answered by nemaus1 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Talk to him and see what he is looking for. If it is stricktly for friends with benifits, or just a quickie now and then, or some kind of relationship. Don't make it sound like you want a commitment, you just want more than only sex.
Keep in mind that men want sex ALL the time and most women don't want it nearly as often.
By the way, that is one incredibly long sentence. Next time, break it up more, it will be easier to read.
2007-02-03 09:14:57 · answer #3 · answered by Mia R 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Of course you can tell him you want to do other things... If he responds back with anything that tells you he is truely only interested in sex, then either dump him and move on to someone else, or enjoy having a sex buddy. But don't think that you can turn it into a real relationship later.
2007-02-03 09:13:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Don't give in to the sex. Tell him you and your daughter are going to the park or movies or something and ask if he wants to join you if he says no he probably don't want that responsibility and thinks if you just give him the sex that's all he needs you for. Just don't give him any and see where it ends up. If he likes you for you AND your daughter he will stay if not let him go.
2007-02-03 09:14:30 · answer #5 · answered by Cas813 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
The best thing is to be straight up with him...You knew him for awhile so he should understand..if not then hes not worth it..if he cant wait to have sex or doesnt want to hang out with you and your little one, that should tell you what kind of person he is... just a horny guy that just wants sex..Hopefully you will tell him and you do the right thing!...good luck
2007-02-03 09:18:29 · answer #6 · answered by Tara 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Tell him that and if he does not understand get rid of him. Why put yourself and your 1 1/2 year old through the trouble. If he is a MAN he will listen and back off.
2007-02-03 09:15:09 · answer #7 · answered by kitty kat 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Unless all you want with this dude is sex, dump him. Can
almost guarantee there's a guy out there for you that would
have no problems getting involved with activities that include
the youngun (he would probably be capable of taking care of
those other urges as well)
2007-02-03 09:17:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You just have to talk to him. Of course guys just want sex at first but if you really want him for more than sex you have to let him know that you want him for more than that.
2007-02-03 09:13:29 · answer #9 · answered by lover4ne1 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
First you need to talk to him about this. If sex is all he wants, then it needs to end soon (unless that's what you want). Your child is only getting older, and doesn't need to become attached to a man that is not in a loving relationship with you.
2007-02-03 09:13:04 · answer #10 · answered by citygirl 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋