How to get my woman back?

Question

My pregnant g/f and I broke up about 1 week ago. We broke up on my terms. I emailed her alot of letters that had alot of hate words, and I even called her names. At that point, we were constantly arguing alot. Instead of calling each other, we'd email each other. Now that she's pregnant, she won't forgive after I said I was sorry and that she's going to make arrangements with my family to see the baby. Lately, we've been hanging out alot. I've been driving her to the clinic for her check ups, but when I mention getting back together, she says she needs to think what's best for her children and the baby. I've been making full efforts on trying to get her back. I'm even going to get her a house for her and the children. What should I do? Should I try to be her friend first or just forget about it and see what happens?

Answer 1

You can do all you can but you can't force her to take you back. The main thing you can do is show sincerity and you are doing those things by your actions. Getting a house is HUGE and taking her to the clinic and hr medical appointments show that you want her and the baby to be healthy. Continue to be her friend and keep doing those things. But doing them before she asks is even better. Buying baby clothes or a crib, preparing the house getting it "baby ready" will show that you want to be involved regardless of the situation between you two. You can take another step in terms of anger management since you were arguing a lot and calling her hateful words. "I'm Sorry" only goes so far but taking corrective actions to PROVE that you're sorry will reflect your true intentions.
Keep doing what you're doing and hopefully she'll realize that you're the one.

Good luck

Answer 2

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Answer 3

First of all you screwd up. Second you should have thought about babies before you had s**! And if your gf is pregnant u shouldn't get mad at her! And what's best for her baby is having a father so tell her that the baby needs to grow up with his'her dad. I guess u could mention that u will be comitted in helping her 100% and that in those hate emails that u sent her u didn't really mean what u said and that u were stressed out about the baby and the situation. (even if u werent just pretend ok?) I don't know what else to say coz I don't know ur girlfriend. good luck

Answer 4

I'm sure this is not the first time youv'e done this. When someone loses trust in you it's hard to get it back. Think before you speak because when you say things they can never be taken back. Words are empowering and everlasting. Even if she forgives you she will never forget the hurtful words you said to her. Think about it, how would you feel in her situation? Give her spaceand let her decide if and when she's ready to give the relationship another chance again! No matter what the out come, be a real man and be there for your child.

Answer 5

women can argue alot, especially when they are pregnant. we have a bzillion hormones raging through us. and there is nothing worse than a man that doesnt support them. you should have never called her names and been so hurtful, is it your baby that shes carrying? it sounds like you have a quick temper, you should find another way to vent than take it out on her. i dont know you or how you treat her, maybe this was her last straw and she doesnt want you back. theres nothing you can do but try to be there for her and support her and not just tell her, but show her that you are sorry. and getting her a house is the least you can do if you put her in this situation, so dont get an attitude...and be nice.

Answer 6

As a mother four times, I can assure you that it is very normal for a woman to not to especially like the father. Although it is temporary. My suggestion would be give her some space. Continue to show support by going to the doctor. Be kind it will take a little time to make it right. But it has only been a week.

Good Luck
mrlyndms

Answer 7

Well first, apologize, buy her flowers and tell her u'll give her space an that u'll be waiting when she's ready to talk. And keep doing what ur doing-like helping her out and stuff. It really depends if u want to be part of your kid's life. If u do, then u need to try to get back together or find a way to stay friends. If you love her, you'll do whats right.

Answer 8

So... first you hated her... and now that shes pregnant you want to work things out? I wouldnt take you back either. Your eally think sh'es going to forgive you just because she's pregnant? I cant believe the only reason you want her to take you back is because of the pregnancy. You have some real issues.

Answer 9

I think you're doing exactly the right thing.
Show her you are a guy she can trust to not hurt her--a guy she can trust and count on.
Be the soft place she run to instead of the one she is running from.

Give it some time and keep being the man/father she can respect and trust and she will come around.

Congratualations on your fatherhood. Hang in there.

Answer 10

Well I'm not sure what you will think of my answer for you, but I suggest that you be her friend and a father to your child. You might talk to her and tell her that is what you are going to be is her friend and a father to your child but that if she decides at any point that she would like to get back together for her to let you know.
I'm going through a situation that is close to this, and it is absolutely horrible to have him not respect my decission that I don't want to get back together with him. I see him to keep attempting to have the same conversation over and over with me about getting back together as a lack of respect for me, and as very selfish. A relationship is supose to be two people that are together because they want to be and where as it may hurt for her to not want to get back together with you, and that part is natural. It is her right to make that decission and you should respect it. So please respect her enough to think about these things and that if it were the other way around you not wanting to get back together would you want her to push and push and push and push for you to do so, or for her to respect you and accept that you choose not to get back together?