My son and step son share a room school and friends.. my son wants independence what can i do?

Question

ok this is a tough situation for me. I have gotten family members ideas now im looking for yours... i have a 7 year old son and i also have a 7 year old step son who within the past few months has started living with us. When my stepson would come to visit the shared a room so it was mostly my sons room. Now that he is living with us the share a room they share the same bus the same school the same friends. My son is jealous and thinks i love him less They used to get along now.. my son is most of the time depressed and angry My step son adores my son. Follows him around as well as their 17 month old brother. My son wishes it was just the two of us again. Funny thing is when my step son is not here my son wishes he was here. Hes always saying how bored he is and asks when my stepson is coming home. Other than giving them their own rooms (cause its just not possible at this time) does anyone have any other ideas?

Answer 1

Maybe start him in a sport that your step son is not in.

Answer 2

Your son needs to know that he has not been replaced in your life or that you don't love him any less. He is use to all of your attention. He also needs for you to provide him as much of his own space as you can. I have had a large family with limited space before. There are several things you can do realatively cheaply when your out of bed rooms but have other spaces avable if that is an option. I have seperated out a large living room to make half of it a bed room by buying something to set it off $100 or $200 bucks in a craft store like hobby lobby that sells neat furniture type things is cheaper than a bed room. or you can maybe split the bed room they share in the same fashion. I have also used a large laundry room for a bed room. I assume the two children are in the same grade, but if they are in the same class you might trying having one put in another class as well. Where as you don't want to totally give in to what he wants where you can do so you might want to try and provide him some space, and something as simple as a differnt class might be enough for him. I went through the same thing with my nephew and my daughter. Don't try and provide what you can't but think about the ways you can offer him some space.

Answer 3

if you can find someway to show your son he's not replaced in your heart, he'll come around. the two of you need some "you" time to talk freely and honestly.