ok me and my girlfriend have been going out for around two months now and well we met at school and such and recently (like 3 weeks ago) I snuck over to her house when her mom was sapposed to be gone and we where just going to hang out you know just be together but her mom caught us and we got in trouble but now like 3 weeks later neither of us are in trouble anymore and she forgives me and I keep telling her I'm sorry (it was my idea to come over) and she says everything is fine, but now I NEVER get to be with her, like I ask her what she is doing after school it's either chores or w/e and I ask her what she is doing for the rest of the week and she says she has to be home and such and yet last friday she went over to her friends house and hung out there and whenever I try and be with her at all we can never get away from her friends and it seems like it doesnt bother her and yet she says it does and also brings up the fact that her friends literaly pull her away from me
2007-02-03 08:41:04 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well the thing now isnt so much about the whole sneaking around I've already apologised to her mom and everyone I know it was my fault her mom doesnt like me nor does her dad or even her sister but she says she doesnt care (it's because I've had a bad past so has she) but she knows I dont want her for just sex and it's just when I'm with her, her friends WILL NOT leave us alone, her friends insist on holding her hand when I hold her hand hug her when I hug her and as of last night her bi friend tried to kiss her after I kissed her, and it really gets on my nerves, I mean sure they have been friends longer than I've been going out with her, but that doesnt give her friends the right to do things like that right? I tried talking to her about this lack of affection towards me and she didnt even notice it, she thought everything was fine in the past week I have only kissed her 5 times I only get like 3 minutes alone with her a day and it really bugs me cause all I want is to be with her
2007-02-03 10:44:25 · update #1
Talk to her.
If it doesn't change, time for a new girlfriend.
2007-02-03 08:48:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bro: It is seems that her mother may have told her that she is not to hang around you anymore because you may just want sex.
The fact that she has time for friends and not for you indicates that she probably agrees and is playing it safe. You must examine your behavior while with her determine if this is true.
I believe that you would do better with a more mature girl who can take better care of herself and you also need to respect her house and her parents by not sneaking where you are not welcomed.
I highly recommend that you draw out your life plan and follow it.
It looks like this: Education that will open doors, a profession that will give you the money for the lifestyle that you want and earn you the respect that you will need, a woman who is equally educated and earns great money (not "good" money) and will be your life partner and not a leach of your finances life those "stay-at-home moms" of today who just gain weight, gossip, and bear children all day long and ruin your life. Be SELECTIVE about your lifestyle and you women. Life life INTENTIONALLY and go get what you want. Why would you want some "girlfriend" who has nothing to offer you right now, anyway?
You can do it, tiger!
Mr. M on "girlfriend."
2007-02-03 16:54:46 · answer #2 · answered by Humberto M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now, in your opinion this may take some guts. But, if you truly want to know what has happened in your relationship, call the girl's mother and have a talk with her. Don't be angry with her, just tell her how you honestly feel and that you really want to know what is going on. If this girl matters alot to you, it will be worth it. If nothing else comes out of this, at least you will have got this off your chest and will be able to go on with your life.
2007-02-03 16:54:04 · answer #3 · answered by rubyred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like her you should go over to her house (when her mom is there) and apologize to her mom for sneaking in to the house. Let her spend time with her friends, she needs space. You should hang out with your friends too. Dont make her feel tied down, give her some room. She'll come around, if you are good to her.
2007-02-03 16:51:51 · answer #4 · answered by Cyndee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe getting caught by her parents made her reconsider how much of a relationship she wants to have with you. Maybe she feels that if you are alone, she will be obligated to fool around with you. Maybe she just likes hanging with her friends.
Maybe she isn't trying to get in any more trouble.
Start hanging out with your friends and putting her on the back burner a few times. It's a big mind game but she'll probably want more alone time then.
2007-02-03 16:49:38 · answer #5 · answered by HatingF8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it's time for a new girlfriend.
Speaking as a mother myself, I'm guessing your girlfriend got chewed out by mom (and no one wants to be chewed out by the parental units) and read the riot act to boot.
In other words, she'd be in big trouble for seeing you. I'm also suspecting getting caught turned her off to the relationship.
You might want to find a more compatible girlfriend.
2007-02-03 16:47:57 · answer #6 · answered by Voice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a new girlfriend.she is not going to change that situation.
2007-02-03 16:46:12 · answer #7 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋