Why can't I INSTANTLY just walk up to people and ask them out or for their number if I like them? I'm always going through a stalling and scared before I ask them out. I want to be able to just walk up to any ole' body I like and ask them out without all the stalling. I know hearing "no" isn't that big of a deal and it won't even bother me if I hear it. I've heard it before and even nasty rejections wouldn't bother me as long as I've already asked them and got it over with. So what am I scared of? I just get extremely nervous when I approach someone I want to ask out and my feet veer me away from that person to go into my stalling period. For instance, there's someone I like at the mall and I understand that rejection isn't a big deal. However, when I was walking toward them, this icy cold feeling of nervousness took over in my chest and I immediately walked into a different direction. I keep going back and forth to the mall, trying to get the answer. How can I just do it right away?
2007-02-03 08:39:03 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just do it
2007-02-03 08:42:03 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, sounds like someone I know (me). I really can't figure out why this is such a big deal. Maybe deep down you are still afraid of rejection. Possibly you're afraid that you're going to screw up so badly with the introduction that it's not even worth the try. Still you must overcome this. If you hold yourself correctly, act confident, then no matter what happens, you won't be shaken.
2007-02-03 09:46:58 · answer #2 · answered by fhfan731 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well all you have too do is put one foot in front of the othere and go and ask he might say sure why not. But don't think about it and just do it. If you still can't do it and still nervous well just act liek you are lost and your going to ask for directions, but ask him out and once the first time is over with then any other time is easier. The first time is the hardest but like I said act it out as an other situation but ask him out when you speak to him.
2007-02-03 08:49:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe your problem is nervousness or shyness because from you additional info it looks like you don't mind being rejected as long as you've done it (you know asked the girl out) so maybe you just need to work on the 2 areas which I assumed were your problems. good luck
2007-02-03 08:48:34 · answer #4 · answered by sasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋