This guy I was seeing, I'm not sure about him, what was going on but I know he was schizophrenic. I'm not sure if he was just crazy or playing mind games with me because I have problems too. I liked talking to him but he drove me crazy with the exaggerations and stuff he would tell me, some things he told me the truth about & some he lied about. I did a background check on him through intellius, this is how I know. The thing is I miss my friend so much I die inside every day that passes. He was really nice to me, gave me things but he said mean things and was controlling. He said he was like that all his life, was sorry but could not help it. I know I badly hurt his feelings by this terrible things I said to him when I was mad. I cry now as I think of him and I want at least to be his friend. We have not talked in several days. Should I call him?
2007-02-03 08:25:19 · 19 answers · asked by christinedaae 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Life is short. Is he worth the time? I personally would not want to be stuck in a relationship with someone who is mean and controlling. I know you say you love him, but will you regret when you are older the time you invested in him? I have a dear friend who cannot stand to be alone. So, she clings on to any man that gives her attention, and they ALWAYS turn out to be jerks. She has been married and divorced twice. I try to tell her to take her time. Don't get involved with just any jacka**. Get to know a guy. Find out in time if he is mean and controlling. Find out in time that he doesn't want children. Find out in time that he has different religious beliefs than you. Life is too short to be unhappy.
2007-02-03 08:32:38 · answer #1 · answered by Blue Jean Baby 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even though your friend did some nice things for you, I say the negative aspects of you two's relationship out weigh the positive.
Every relationship has it's ups and downs, but for the most part a good relationship should make you feel good most of the time.
Love and friendship is not suppose to hurt you so if you are having problems more times than not, you need to re-think your friendship with this person.
If he is mentally ill (schizophrenic) then you need to be very careful. He can not help the fact that he is mentally ill, if this is truly the case, but you need to keep a safe distance from him emotionally and physically. Is he on medication? Does he get counseling? You may need to seek the advice from a mental health care worker about how to deal with someone who is schizophrenic.
If he is not mentally ill and just playing games with you, then leave him because it's not worth putting up with his behavior in order to be his friend.
2007-02-03 16:37:46 · answer #2 · answered by Seldom Seen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you all can still be friends from a distance, but it sounds like you two don't bring out the best in each other. Maybe you should find someone who can bring out the best in you. You don't want a friend that controls you, and you don't want to be constantly mad at your friends. Just try to be a good judge of character, don't go looking for the wrong crowd of friends, okay. Be safe and God bless!
2007-02-03 16:33:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you need to let him call you. Let him realize what is gone. Like they say, "You don't know what you got until it's gone." Obviously he is aware of his condition. And he knows of the games that he plays with you. You can only take so much until you get fed up with his childishness.
If both of you are having problems then right now neither of you need to be together. You need to sort out your problems first. Comfort in another isn't going to solve your problems. And you can't hide from your problems realizing that someone's is greater than yours. Not to mention trying to solve his and not yours.
I realize that there are 2 totally differing answers to this question. But you will receive more differing answers from others.
Good Luck
2007-02-03 16:35:42 · answer #4 · answered by izzitonme 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well if you really miss him call him and talk to him. But if he's always hurting your feelings how come you miss him. Even if you have problems no one should say bad things about you and do it all the time. SO teh best thing to do is call to see how he is and then just have him say bad stuff to you. But if someone wants to change from what is accostumed too any one cna change if they really try, It doesn't matter whether his been like the way he is, he can change if he wants to. So want to chat with someone more just IM me or e-mail me anytime.
2007-02-03 16:35:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you a psychologist or psychiatrist? If not, you will be going through ups and downs for the rest of your time that you want to spend with him.
It seems you miss that part of him that is good. That part of him that is bad is still part of him. Do yourself a favor and wait for someone who is a complete good package with tolerable character flaws.
Remember mental illness is a sickness that can be a life long process of management.
It seems that you have too much on your plate to get a quick degree in psycho-analysis.
so let it go o.k. If you can not get over it and it causes you to be down too much, get some counseling for yourself o.k.
2007-02-03 16:38:49 · answer #6 · answered by Arene 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cut it off. You don't need the drama. Your life is yours. Start living for you and think about the future. Honestly look into the future and answere this. "Is this the guy I want to support me and raise kids with"? If it's no or I don't know then move on and find the guy that makes you say "Yes" to that question. Real men don't have drama for their women. Their suppose to help you solve yours.
2007-02-03 16:35:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry Christine, but this does not sound like a healthy relationship. Count your losses and continue on down the road.
2007-02-03 16:28:44 · answer #8 · answered by Gargirl™® 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't call him at all. It sound like you know he was playing mind games. It will be hard for you. But it will be worth it in the end.
2007-02-03 16:30:44 · answer #9 · answered by amandamc32183 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Noway, dont even give such a fellar the power over u.
Smile and move on, u deserve better.
2007-02-03 16:29:10 · answer #10 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋