A person has just moved away that i speak to about everything, but he cant see me anymore and wishes for me not to contact him as it makes his new job difficult. How can i get over this i feel lost and isolated, there is no one else i can speak too. HELP?
2007-02-03 08:24:24 · 19 answers · asked by Tiamat 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
He was a chaplain at my university and yes i am suffering from depression which i am getting treated for slowly!
2007-02-03 08:42:36 · update #1
Speak to your inner self. Perhaps this individual is giving you the opportunity to rely on yourself.
There are so many people out there...........do not close the door b/c of one person.
Doors close & windows open. Keep an eye on the horizon.
Be blessed........
2007-02-03 08:29:08 · answer #1 · answered by ♣Hey jude♣ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You poor thing, its hard when the only person that you could talk too and that understands how you feel has gone away, and even harder that he has requested that you have no contact.. The reason you feel like you do is that you have lost a person o which you could rely on and feel angry that he has just dumped you and wants no contact. You say there is no one else, maybe you could find someone else. Please dont feel lost and isolated you are a human and deserve to be happy, just just need to look inside and find that happiness. There was a time when I felt like that, I went to the doctors for help, and now I am gradually day by day feeling better, you have friends here online that will always be your friend and talk to you, I for sure will always be here for you, take care and be strong x
2007-02-03 16:31:00 · answer #2 · answered by pringles 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, my heart aches for you! You have lost a friend - much like the person dying in your life. That is so sad! He must not be a very good friend if he can just chose work over your friendship - it is terrible! You should go out with other friends, although it may seem hard - you can make better friends! There are always chats, forums, and etc online if you need help with something like depression. You can also try to invite someone out to lunch or a drink after work - I am shy and that always seems to work. Plus, you can talk to you neighbors and family members - there are many people that care about you because everyone is special in his or her own way. I have added some links that I like to use to talk to people online. Good Luck with making all those wonderful new friends! Don't worry, you will get over your lose.
2007-02-03 16:31:15 · answer #3 · answered by Tonya B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi don't give up on the world because there's alot of it you could see.The person has gone in your life and it hurts,but so does alot of things.I don't think he was as close to you as you were to him,and rejection hurts all of us.He left but that is no reason not to keep in touch with you,maybe he was affraid he had feeling for you which in his job was forbidden.Be brave try to make new friends and go out and enjoy life,you may find the person who can really help you.I'm sure people here at Yahoo answer with put kind and understanding answers to how you feel,without judgement or ridicule.Or maybe try a chat room where your identity and personal life are secret and you can make friendships there.There's a saying in the new Rocky movie that i think i will quote to you 'its not how hard we can hit,its how hard we can be hit and get up and keep moving forward,thats what makes a winner'.You have had a few knock backs in your life but you must pick yourself up and move forward,forget the jerk who hurt you he is'nt worth the tears. Good Luck & Remember people will help but you need to let them know you want ther help.
2007-02-03 17:06:58 · answer #4 · answered by Tony 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont have to get over him, just find some new people. Even if you are not religious join activities with positive upbeat people at some local churches that have people your age. or anything that that gets you out of the house. Watch your diet, try to eat healthy as much as you can. Join something a school group, anything, just get yourself more around over people. If you force yourself to do that then you will gain more than one person you can talk to. More people in your life will help you have a more lasting stable life style. Even when two people marry, they should belong to social groups that get the focus off of just 2 people. We get depressed when we are isolated and limit our interacts with other people.
2007-02-03 17:02:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it sounds like you just need to spend your time finding another friend and get over the comfort of having this guy for a friend. It sounds like he hurt you by not being there for you. So move on...you can maybe find someone older than you...someone that you look up to..maybe a family member like a cousin or aunt until you find someone that you can really trust to be there for you. I would suggest finding a female friend because females understand that feelings are important and that we need someone to talk to constantly.,..and males seem to not understand this and are more likely to leave you in a situation like yours. Best of luck.
2007-02-03 16:30:11 · answer #6 · answered by katalina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
y dont u go and make new friends then may ur find some one u can talk to thats what i did wen my friend moved and i was left with no one to talk to but i moved on and found a new friend it may take time but b better in the long run
2007-02-03 16:39:02 · answer #7 · answered by katie b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as you are feeling that there is no one else that you can speak to then that is going to be the way it is, until you decide to stop isolating yourself from everyone else out there that there is that you could talk to and get to know if you gave them the chance then you are going to continue feeling the way you are feeling, hey my e-mail addy is open if you want, but that is up to you
2007-02-03 16:28:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the confidence and dependency was not there for you from that person like you had locked in your heart for that person cheer up there is someone out there that is looking for someone just like you to cry on your shoulders its nice to have a true friend now adays its kinda rare to find that special someone.cheer up girl you won the game and lost the LOSER
2007-02-03 16:43:01 · answer #9 · answered by conniecfw 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems as though its time to go out and make some new friends. rather it be male or female im sure that there are people out there that you could go have a good time with. and eventually you will beable to talk to them about anything. i hope that you find the answer that your looking for and im sorry that your having a hard time.
2007-02-03 16:28:09 · answer #10 · answered by vw_72camper 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋