It's hard to say where to begin but here it goes. I was with my now Ex-girlfriend for 3 and a half years. I did everything with her these past 3.5 years, and about a month ago she broke up with me. I tried to work things out and talk to her about it, but she wanted to move on. I tried really hard for this girl. I would wake up early to see her, I helped her with her homework (we are both College students) I often got her gifts, and pretty much everything I could to make her feel special and important. For the longest time she did the same to me, and when everything seemed ok this happened. Now my dilema is, I feel lost without her. I didn't just lose a lover, but a best friend as well. It's hard not to be able to call her and talk to her about school, work, and the various other events in my life I used to share with her. I try and talk to other girls but it just doesn't feel right, especially because I know I still really love my ex. I just don't know what to do...
2007-02-03 08:18:05 · 11 answers · asked by yo5ty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I hope this doesn't erase the initial thing I posted. Basically here is some insight to the situation a bit more.
For the record, I never hit her, and I never would. I feel we are still to young to marry, but we had discussed one day getting married, but not for awhile, so I don't think that it.
Part of the struggle was we had limited time to see each other. with work and school, and she lived a good 40 minutes a way, I didn't get to see her as much as I wanted. I tried to find a solution to see her more, but she didn't really go for any of them. She said she wasn't ready to move in until after college. I was ok with this but I urged her to try and spend more time with me, she said she wanted to as well, and she would try and work something out, but then elected to break up one day when we were hanging out together.. After we had broke up, I called her twice explaining how I felt, but she didn't change her mind, and just said it's not gonna work out. Hope that helps some.
2007-02-03 08:33:06 · update #1
Talk to her
2007-02-03 08:20:40 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Break ups take time - but trust me - you do get over the hurt. It may not feel right to talk with other girls just yet - but the time will come when it will feel more natural. Sounds like you need to give yourself more time and space before getting back into circulation. Sounds like the break up was more her wish than yours - it isn't your fault - consider yourself lucky she decided to go now and not have you are married with a few kids.
2007-02-03 08:22:35 · answer #2 · answered by Monkey Lips 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you not talking to her? Did she tell you not to call her or something?
If not, then what is stopping you from at least keeping the friendship alive to help you get past the intimacy you will never have? Don't be stubborn and not call her. Even when we are no longer seeing the man we were with, we still would love to hear from you, unless of course you beat the crap outta us. Then you just need to stay away.
I think your just hurting yourself by not keeping in touch. She might help you through your loss of her if you kept in touch.
2007-02-03 08:23:40 · answer #3 · answered by gnuck gnuck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow you really sound like a good boyfriend to me and i want to ask you do u know why she broke up with you? Did she give u a reason?
Because when i broke up wiht my boyfriend of 4 months (yeah it was only 4 months compared to ur 3.5 years and we r highschool seniors) I didnt give him reasons and he was a really good bf like u were (im guessing u were). Its just that sometimes things fade out... and u dont feel attracted to them 'that way' no longer.. and it coudl be because you tried so hard. I hated how my bf woiuld do everything for me and do everything to see me its like no fun anymore because hes always there and doing everything for me.. i think that might b why. U overdid it for her and she just lost interest...
Maybe she still likes u a bit? maybe she misses having a boyfriend? of course she wont admit it and wont say it but she might b... try dating another girl or try hooking up with someome. maybe ur ex will react to it.. i did!
2007-02-03 08:23:37 · answer #4 · answered by anna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself time, and treat yourself as your best friend (appreciate yourself, you have lost nothing, you are moving from one stage of your life to another, and this is the way life is supposed to make us grow and get wise). Try considering your needs, since it seems you have pretty much neglected them in order to invest all of you into the former relationship.
2007-02-03 08:22:28 · answer #5 · answered by Vesna G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry all this happened. You're gonna be in some pain for many months. If she wants to move on, she wants to move on; there's nothing you can do about it. If she really loved you and stuff, she WILL come back.
2007-02-03 08:22:08 · answer #6 · answered by g13player 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time will heal all wounds. Be patient and you'll find someone new. Get to those dances, parties and other places to meet some nice girls. You seem too nice for that ex anyway....so let yourself free and find someone new. She's out there.
2007-02-03 08:21:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wise women do not invest more than 2 - 3 yrs. in a relationship
without marriage...
Did she just give up on your asking her to marry you ??
2007-02-03 08:21:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never heard of email?
2007-02-03 08:22:19 · answer #9 · answered by tewarienormy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you a man??
if yes, then it doesnt suit you to say i dont know pls try aother
2007-02-03 08:21:48 · answer #10 · answered by suma 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋