I am in this club called Project C.R.O.S.S. The other day we were talking about how we should forgive everyone for everything that they have wrongfully done to us because Jesus forgives us. Then a 14 or 15 year old girl asked " How can I forgive my mom for letting guys rape me when I was 3 years old, just so she could get some drug money?" How do you respong to something like that. What should I have told her?
2007-02-03 08:15:45 · 41 answers · asked by cna_angel06 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You can forgive the person without forgiving the act.
2007-02-03 08:18:19 · answer #1 · answered by alwaysmoose 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is really tough and I am sure she seeks answers. At one time or another her Mom is going to suffer emotionally for what she has done, but that doesn't mean the daughter has to. Remember when Jesus was on the CROSS, He said, ""Father, forgive them; for they know not what they do. Mark 23:34 If you have an opportunity to see or talk with her again, make a friend. Allow God to use you in a way to help her through her pain, and the benefit, GOD GETS THE GLORY!
2007-02-03 08:27:56 · answer #2 · answered by trvm3957 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You respond by saying I am sorry to hear that. Inquire if she is being helped by someone such as a counselor or clergy member. She is young and hopefully she will be able to forgive so she can heal. You never get over it but you can move on and live a normal life. When we are young we tend to not know all the factors involved. Especially if you remember the details. At 3 years of age I did. Being conscience before and after waking up after-wards. Seeing the aftermath was the most traumatic. I forgave the perp but not the act. And I have forgiven my mother.
2007-02-03 08:27:37 · answer #3 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well i was sexually abused i did not forgive but i had to let it go in order to move on spiritually. I really so find it hard to but i just closed the door on that part of my life then i was able to move on. it was the only way i could get through that. We really should forgive or let go because think about what God forgives he forgives for so much more than we think about. Ppl have commited so much badness against him and he still forgives us. If i have a day were my past bothers me i think about that.
2007-02-03 08:30:53 · answer #4 · answered by CHAEI 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Before you go any further with this noble project, you need to rread "The Sunflower" by Simon Wiesenthal.
It tells of his time in the concentration camp and how a dying german guard ask for forgiveness for all the terrible things he had done to Simon
In investigates the nature of forgiveness and why some people can never forgive.
You will run into this caliber of question again. You need to be prepared
2007-02-03 08:22:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have an answer which you might feel comfortable with, mouth the words forgiveness, but accept the anger and feelings which come along with this horrible betrayal and trauma. I was an abuse victim and my mother refused to believe me, this was a hurt and betrayal beyond all I could imagine, until I learned of girls, and also little boys who were prostituted out by their parents for drug money. If you haven't yet done this, please, I beg of you, imagine you are this child, imagine having no protection, no nurturing, just imagine.....My own history, I used to go to Mass every day and receive communion, then pray to die on the spot so I would not have to every go through it again. Where was god????? How does anyone justify god's refusal to act on these horrors.............this is why I am not a believer.
2007-02-03 08:26:31 · answer #6 · answered by sashali 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How can I forgive my mom for letting guys rape me when I was 3 years old, just so she could get some drug money?" How do you respond to something like that. What should I have told her?
Because she was on DRUGS!
Explain DESPERATION to the kid.
She should indeed Forgive and understand WHY.
She is not expected to Forget though.
2007-02-03 08:20:33 · answer #7 · answered by whynotaskdon 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She probably just needed you to listen to her. Logically she knows that you don't have the answers. But you must remember forgiving isn't letting the guilty off the hook it is releasing all of the hatred and hurt within yourself so that you can go on and live a life free from the bondage of what you had no control over.
2007-02-03 08:21:54 · answer #8 · answered by gtahvfaith 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Boy that's a big question. But the short answer is that by forgiving her mother she can begin to let go of her attachment to the harm done to her and any guilt she may have about it. It is the first part of recognizing a healing process that can begin from there.
2007-02-03 08:20:40 · answer #9 · answered by Eso_ uk 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it's hard to forgive someone who would rather buy drugs than care for their own daughter. I would tell her to get away from her mother so that she doesn't get hurt. Your not saying you don't forgive her if you get away from her , but in order to forgive her you need to let go of the past and get on with your life. God bless!!!
2007-02-03 08:27:47 · answer #10 · answered by soccer_crzy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please tell her that what she went through was horrible. NO ONE can deny that. Jesus has already paid for that horrible act by His death on the cross and because of that we can all have forgiveness of sins. Because of that, A trauma that severe can cause bondage--a foothold for the devil to hold on to you for years maybe even her whole life. But the great news is that not only has Jesus purchased forgiveness for us--He bought our freedom. He who the Son has made free will be free indeed. Unforiveness binds--Jesus sets the captive. Working through this issue will take time for her and lots of pray and dependance upon Him. You might suggest the book Bondage Breakers or the Steps to Freedom in Christ by Neil Anderson. God Bless, and I'll be praying for you and her.
2007-02-03 08:24:13 · answer #11 · answered by studentofword84 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋