I know that my father is having a relationship with at least one other woman. I have her e-mail address, and I am thinking about sending her a tasteful e-mail, but I don't want my father to act irrational towards me. I don't want to tell my mother about this and get her all upset, but I feel like I would be betraying her if I didn't. My mother is dependent on my father, because she has a heart condition. There is alot of things she can't do, so I don't know if my mother actually knows about this relationship and is deciding to put up with it, or if she doesn't know. I am so disgusted at my father right now. I also discovered that he has been sending this woman significant amounts of money, helping her pay bills and support her family all the while, we (his real family) have been struggling so hard financially, that it's really made my mother's health worsen. I am scared to confront my father, but I feel so angry and sad right now. What should I do?
2007-02-03 08:13:35 · 6 answers · asked by R J 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have no idea how old you are however, I'd ask him if he really has any balls to be a 'man' and take care of his responsibilities as a 'man'....your phsh..'father' deserves no respect! because hes giving no respect to your mom or you!!!! Yes, send a respectful email to the other woman( she probably has no idea whats 'really' going on, shes only hearing his side!) - ask her if she realizes that he is turning his back on his 'wife' (who is ill,) for her? Point out to her that if he can do this to his ill wife what is he capable of doing to her?...duh, just using her! most likely only for sex and hes (temporaraly) helping her-that will end sometime soon also......I hate to say this hun but, your dad is a f-in ***hole dog!!!....What should you do???? Well-have more balls than your dad !!! and confront him! so what, he gets pissed so what, call the police if it gets phycial. don't bring yourself to his snake gutter level... Your mother is phycially ill - your dad is mentally ill. what your dad is doing is a 'choice' that 'he has made' and you have EVERY RIGHT to be pissed about it...its very easy to put him on the spot by asking very personel questions...close your mouth, don't speak, just listen and make him accountable for his actions,don't allow excuses! as there are none! there is no excuse for cheating!.......you may be the person he created to the world but that gives him 'no right' to be so disrespectfull....hell yes, he will act irritional!..CUS hes guility!!!!!...Nanny 911 works for adults as well as kids.....make him accountable. Hes already disrespecting!, so what if he gets angry!...that just proves his guilt!!!!! Your mom and you are suffering (while hes cheating and supporting her in some ways) because of 'his' actions!!!hes the type of person I'd take to court for every cent he has!!!! help your mom! she needs a divorice!
2007-02-03 10:05:35 · answer #1 · answered by willie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get as much evidence as you can, because if you don't he will deny it. He'll deny it anyway. When you have plenty of proof talk to him about how you feel about his affair and what he's doing and how it is affecting you. He's not setting a good example at how a real man should treat his wife and family. Let him know that if he doesn't go to your mother and talk to her about what it is he feels is missing in their marriage that is making him loss his damn mind to the point that he is giving another woman what he can't give to his own woman, then you will go talk to your mother. Give him the opportunity to talk to her first. If he doesn't want to be with your mother he needs to be a man and let her know so she can move on. He is putting your mother in an early grave. She doesn't need the stress or him. If he choose to leave be there for your mom and help her as best you can. Be the man that your father is not. Pray and ask for guidance.
2007-02-03 08:58:42 · answer #2 · answered by MrzKuumba 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send your email, let the other woman know YOU know what is going on, confront your father away from your Mom, you will know by his actions whether she knows or not. Tell him you know, prove it if you have it, that he is sending this woman money and it has to stop, for your Mom and you and any others in the home. Tell him you will give all the proof to your Mom (don't if you don't have to ) if he doesn't stop his activities with this other woman.
As for the email to the other woman, tell her who you are and that you are sickened by the way your dad and have have hurt you and your Mom.
2007-02-03 08:54:58 · answer #3 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before emailing her, talk to your dad and say that if he either doesnt end it or tell ur mother then u will. He will tell you its none of your business, but tell him that its your mother's business because he is spending money that she is entitled to. Its a shame that you're in this situation but best resolve it before it gets out of hand.
2007-02-03 08:35:01 · answer #4 · answered by Lily 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. talk to him in a nice way.tell him you know what is he doing and show him how you feel, tell him you don't want your mother to suffer specially 'cause of her heart condition so you will not tell her about that. good luck
2007-02-03 08:23:09 · answer #5 · answered by sara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your father is a dog and your mom should divorce his A$$ and sue him! She is intitled to half of everything he make! This is sickening!!!
2007-02-03 08:22:38 · answer #6 · answered by Bobby T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋