I met someone online, and we had some pretty steamy chats. We've been chatting for about a month and a half. We had two very short dates in public places, and I felt physically attracted to him, but we were just cordial. We're both adults, so that's not a problem. I can't stop thinking about making out with him and being close to him, but our next date will be only the third time we'll see each other. If put off the sex, will the steam go out? Or if I do what I want to with him, will it ruin things because it's too fast?
2007-02-03 08:12:06 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hate to sound corny...but you have to follow your heart. my first boyfriend and i waited 2 years before we 'did it" we broke up eventually. my husband and i slept together on the second date and the sex is still hot:)
2007-02-03 08:15:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that it depends on the right time and the right place. Sure, you've chatted a lot online, but seeing the person face-to-face can be a lot more nervewracking. At least, during steamy online chats, you have the screen separating the two of you, and that takes a lot of the pressure off. Maybe the two of you should spend more time on dates so that you can get a more physical feel for one another.
However, I think the best route to go might be to discuss how you feel with your man. If you've had your chats online and you are attracted to him and want to be closer to him, then you should tell him. It's quite possible he feels the same way about you, and that he has the same questions and feelings, but you just don't know until you ask. What is 'too fast' for you, might not be for him, and vice versa.
So maybe, you might just bring it up casually, explain that you love to be close to him, and tell him about your questions. If he is the right guy for you, he'll love the honesty and you will be able to work out your relationship together.
2007-02-03 16:18:54 · answer #2 · answered by Kaylin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the hurry. Take your time. No rush. You never know you could end of having sex with him and the sex could suck really bad. So all of the feelings inside and the rush of not being able to wait could all be shot down. Get to know him a little better. Spend some more time with him face to face. You are a big girl. You can do whatever you want. But I think that you should take it slow. Besides how much do you really know about thus guy any way? Does he have any disease or anything that he can give you. Don't do something little like having sex to soon with him and have to regret it for the rest of your life. Good Luck. I hope everything works out for you.
2007-02-03 16:19:59 · answer #3 · answered by Hugs and Kisses 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's your hurry? Take things slow....develop a solid friendship, then allow it to grow into something deeper if this is what you're hoping for. Physical attractions are just that...physical....we all change physically and if this is what you base a relationship on, one or both of you will eventually be disappointed as you both change, physically.
Relationships that really last, and that are deep, worth-while ones, are the ones based on attractions that are deeper than the physical ones. Too many people quickly jump into shallow kinds of relationships and then end up disillusioned and hurt. If either of you present yourself as so deperate that you're rushing things, then something's wrong!
2007-02-03 16:47:43 · answer #4 · answered by S. B. C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by steamy chats I take that to mean sexual, so both of you already know your into one another, and you both have most likely gotten hot and bothered by your steamy chats, so I think you should go for it, at your next meeting be bold and take control and really rock his world, that is what a man wants so go for it and good luck and do C U M again!!
2007-02-03 16:23:32 · answer #5 · answered by Sir Hard & Thick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should ask him? See how he feels about the situation. Don't make things go too fast cuz then you guys will break up faster, the longer the wait, the more steam there is.
2007-02-03 16:14:54 · answer #6 · answered by DDR QUEEN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything untill it feels right. If you choose to have sex later rather then sooner, the "steam" won't go out, you both will still have a sexual desire and it will make the sex amazing hen you both finnly decided to move your relationship to that levle.
2007-02-03 16:16:03 · answer #7 · answered by apple513 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u want him for a long time as a boyfriend dont have sex... like he might start using u if u give in so easy. but if ur only looking for a freiends with benefits for a short term, why not?
2007-02-03 16:15:30 · answer #8 · answered by anna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are correct..
Too slow and it will die...
You need to move it to the next step...
I don't know about sex but you certainly need
to get some kissing, fondling & intimate body contact going..
Dress for the occasion, skirt & no panties...
2007-02-03 16:16:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try steam bath before meeting
2007-02-03 16:14:41 · answer #10 · answered by suma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋